Someone here that has never being in a date or asked someone to a date... Why? (lemmings.world)

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I saw that other post about worst dates and honestly can't relate since I've never dated anyone, I just wanted to know if I was the only one here. That's it, you don't have to go deeper if you don't want to

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[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I've been on 2 first dates and quickly found out that I'm ace. One of them tried to kiss me (was very polite, not creepy, or handsy, so not blaming the guy) but I was mortified. I didn't know what to do so I froze and just made it so uncomfortable. I also felt uncomfortable to be fair. I didn't know what I was supposed to do, if it was going well, what to say, what I should pay, what I should talk about, etc. It was just really stressful for me and I haven't done it since. I wanna say that was about a decade ago, once I left college. And these two dates were my first dates period, as well as my last.

EDIT: I'm also obese, very tall, and unattractive. So no one has asked me out since those two, so it's not like I'm dodging dick on the daily.

[-] dingus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Wow wtf I had an almost identical dating experience...I went on one or two (can't remember which) awkward, uncomfortable dates realizing I wasn't into doing it. I felt really bad about it too!! I was probably early 20s at the time. I'm 30 now and have never tried again.

Sometimes I think about trying again with someone from an ace dating website, but no one on there is mutually interested and geographically close enough.

[-] 2ugly2live@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

I've tried that as well. Honestly, these days I have one really good friend and I'm kind of good with that 😂

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