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Did your parents ever take a deeper interest in you and your interests outside of your needs?

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[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago

Both are equally irresponsible by definition. The only remaining factor would be if, in the first one, they tried to take an interest and failed, or if, in the second one, the parent knows of the child's existence.

At least the one who planned the child though would be caring for them properly while in the womb.

[-] j4k3@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

I didn't think of that one. That is a good point actually. It doesn't completely hold to reality with someone I know. I mean, she had proper healthcare and cared even though it was an unplanned kid.

I was planned, but parents have never really taken an interest in me, but they don't have many interests anyways, or friends for that matter. Their life revolves around cable TV and religion.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago

Reminds me of a friend of mine. Was born as the second son to a birth mother who is disabled and would seem ill-equipped for many physical tasks but who wanted to live like Amy Schumer, as well as an abusive birth father who was often said to use her. He ended up severely abusing the friend in a way that almost left him dead and was sentenced to two months (because corrupt judge) and the birth mother was ordered to give the friend up but was allowed to keep his older half-brother and later gave birth to a younger half-sister. Not satisfied with this, after he was adopted, the birth mother tried pulling some strings to compensate for his loss while at the same time not revealing she was his birth mother or why he had to be given up for adoption, also trying to get his adoptive mother to play along, which is something she was also able to get the birth half-brother and birth half-sister to do. When the friend finally found out, the birth mother would constantly complain he wasn't interested in family matters having to do with the birth family or that he was making too big a deal about the abuse which she witnessed the effects unfold from which she publicly would deny the existence of, and things climaxed when the birth mother tried budding in and disapproving of his relationship, which led to an entire social dynamic ghosting her (except for the whole rest of the immediate adoptive family), but with her still trying to influence matters anyways, as she keeps doing. This is what I immediately think of anytime the topic comes up as I express that intent does matter.

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