I don't know if this will make you feel better or worse, but I don't think the kind of mindset you're talking about in this thread is a thing specific to places that have been couped. For the US for example, I'm not sure if I've seen it on lemmygrad directly that I can recall, but I know on Twitter I've seen stuff along the lines of like "why is the left so useless" and it's like, um, well its revolutionaries keep getting imprisoned or murdered by the state, then the messages of those revolutionaries (if they are allowed to be seen in popular media at all) get watered down into liberalism after their death, and aesthetic takes the place of substance in support of the status quo and methods of resistance like the feckless "resistance liberal" who "posts really hard and angrily about voting for a candidate who is carrying out genocide so the other genocide candidate won't get in" are all that is allowed to be spoken about as a valid tactic in the media with the most reach.

People get frustrated and I think one way to approach it is to treat it less like a dismissal of an entire people and more like a strategy question. Underneath the dismissal is someone who probably wants a better world, but doesn't understand why it isn't happening or how to bring it about, from where they're standing.