You asked the question with specific emphasis that sets it up to be easy to argue against.

For example using the words 'perfectly fine' when you should very well understand from their previous statement that they don't think that to be the case, you exaggerated their stance in order to misrepresent it. This misrepresentation allows you to frame their position with a question that is easy to defeat instead of actually refuting their claim or answering their proposed question.

You also loaded the question, implying their position within your question and reducing their possible responses to extremes.

This is a high school debate club 101 straw man question, I was just letting you know, so hopefully in the future you can structure your arguments better.

For example, if I responded to you saying "so you think everyone who calls you out, just doesn't understand what a straw man is?"

It's exaggerating and purposefully misconstruing the point in order to ask a question that is easy to rebut.

And here's the definition: an intentionally misrepresented proposition that is set up because it is easier to defeat than an opponent's real argument.