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I would LOVE to be able to branch out, but as much as I’ve tried in my almost 30 years, it always ends as nothing but a wet fart. Most of the people who I do vibe with (and who tolerate me) exist in the form of potential romantic interests and it just doesn’t work out. I can’t find that “line” of platonicness and romance. From that perspective then, I guess it makes sense why my friendships/commections ceased formation in my adolescence. Doesn’t make it suck any less though lolololol

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[-] Formerlyfarman@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Now that you mention, this seems fairly normal. I wonder if it is physiological, that we are more likely to make friends in our teens. Or if it has something to do with free time, and material interests.

[-] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 16 points 8 months ago

I spent 8-10 hours after school with my friends every day. It's not possible to do that with anyone as an adult. I have made some friends as an adult but it's difficult to make plans. Everyone (including myself) is so busy, crushed under the weight of capitalism, depressed, etc.

[-] stigsbandit34z@hexbear.net 5 points 8 months ago

Even having virtual friends you interact with often doesn’t mean the same imo.

Not any less valid but not as deep in my experience

[-] Formerlyfarman@hexbear.net 2 points 8 months ago

Yes this is s good point. There are just less bonding opportunities.

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