The patriarchy is hierarchy. Like all hierarchies, it's pyramid shaped. It's not a rectangle with all men on top and all women in the bottom. It's a SMALL group of rich men oppressing everyone else. Sure MOST men are given more "power" than MOST women in the structure. That's the deal the small group of oppressors gave to keep their power. They also give power to strong women who toe the line. But the idea that most men aren't oppressed in the patriarchy is utterly ridiculous. You seriously think every man you see around you is secretly part of a cabal trying to keep you and other women down? You think that they have no problems, no burdensome expectations placed on them by the patriarchy to keep them in place? That they benefit from toxic masculinity instead of suffer by it? I'm sorry but you have a very dark view of 50% of the population if you think they're the oppressor class and you're in the victim class.

We're all victims of the patriarchy unless we're old rich white men. The only thing that separates us is the degree of victimisation.