Who do you know that took a path you didn't expect? (lemmy.autism.place)

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[-] Jojowski@sopuli.xyz 23 points 2 weeks ago

I have a relative who was a brilliant student in school, studied law, moved to China, learned the language, always very high achieving and motivated to succeed in what ever she chose to do, seemed like she was aiming high career-wise, then she met an arab guy, turned muslim to marry him, got two kids, as far as I know is a house wife now. They live in the Emirates so life must be very restricted for her. We are not close but it was quite surprising that she chose a closed life and conservative religion instead of career. But like said, I don't know her enough to know her side of the story, but I'm sure she's happy with her life.

A friend of mine, when I first got to know him, didn't strike to me as a person with many goals in life and was at that point unemployed and living with his cousin, hadn't really studied, wasn't doing much anything. Well he got into gardening, wen't to career school to become a gardener, one day he decides to become a landscape architect and study in the most top tier university in the country, so he just studied to the entrance exam like hell, failed a couple times and kept on pushing and finally got it. Very proud of him. Not the easiest path if you come from career school background. Also how the hell can someone be so motivated to bang their head onto the wall until they finally succeed?!

[-] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 15 points 2 weeks ago

brilliant student in school, studied law, moved to China, learned the language, always very high achieving and motivated to succeed in what ever she chose to do, seemed like she was aiming high career-wise,

Burnout is a bitch, speaking from experience. One way out is to radically change your lifestyle. Whether it turns out good or bad in the long term is very individual

[-] oce@jlai.lu 6 points 2 weeks ago

First story kinda reminds of French female rapper Diam's who got famous in the 2000' for her songs talking about women emancipation and her positions against right populism. After about 10 years being at the top, she announces retiring because she converted to Islam, married, had a kid and stopped making and listening to music because it is haram, she later moved to live in Saudi Arabia. She also published an autobiography in 2012 and a documentary in 2022 to explain her trajectory where we learn that she had many psychological troubles since her teens and being bitten by her partner at 17, had stays at a psychiatric hospital in 2007, stopped her treatment, attempted suicide and converted to Islam at the end of 2008.

[-] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I had no idea about Diam's. She was the shit in the early 2000s

[-] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 5 points 2 weeks ago

They live in the Emirates so life must be very restricted for her.

As a Middle Eastern guy with stereotype-level knowledge about the Emirates, I don't think so. Even if Islam demanded women be restricted in their lives (it doesn't) Emirates is very famous as an "only Muslim on the cover" country. Now we can't really guess anything about her life, but whatever she wants to do, it won't be the country stopping her.

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