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I'm kinda tired of arguments that expect the minoritized group to not "radicalize" the majority group. Why is it on the people who are being oppressed to not offend people aren't even necessarily oppressors? Honestly, this comment is tone deaf as fuck.
I actually think the movement is a bad idea, but for another reason. I just think it's unreasonable to ask people to avoid relationships. The male dating pool is totally fucked for girls, but if you have desires, they shouldn't be denied. Even as a bi gal who generally prefers girls and isn't looking to date guys, I won't rule out men. The vast majority are undatable, but that's because so many of them aren't raised right. They aren't taught proper empathy and respect for others, never having a chance at being good partners. It's a systemic problem, only further reinforced by the internet and toxic male culture.
They aren't taught that they NEED to constantly earn women's trust and love. They aren't taught that kindness AND strength are what women generally look for. Be a fucking hero who fights for his loved ones. Make her feel safe, not in danger if she doesn't "pay up." Be ambitious AND kind.
It's respectability politics. The same as when people complain about climate protestors blocking roads etc. There's a huge segment of society that cares more about avoiding any sort of conflict than achieving just outcomes.