Being loved or at least desired by someone must be nice (lemmings.world)

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If you read my previous post on other place I asked about dating and most responses sounded like it was nice. Yes, I'm aware that relationships are not only good times (I've seen my mother being tired of her partner and scared of my father) but when you have literally NOTHING in your life you can't help to idolising the things you never had...

I don't think that's weird, but it's definitely sad

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[-] Ziglin@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

This was very interesting but I wonder whether all species or even just one actually have a (shared) purpose? As humans couldn't we all just try to find our own?

For me it would be to be a net positive to society in certain ways (that I'm not sure how to put into words and the bits I know how to could get long) before departing.

In a way we are just a very complex system that can reproduce and we are just configured to do so. Life is very good at persevering but does that make it our purpose?

[-] Libb@jlai.lu 1 points 2 days ago

I wonder whether all species or even just one actually have a (shared) purpose? As humans couldn’t we all just try to find our own?

Not sure to understand what you mean here? Would you care to develop?

In a way we are just a very complex system

We are.

Life is very good at persevering but does that make it our purpose?

If I were to define them, I would separate life (as the yet-to-be-understood 'force' that make some things being alive), species (all the various kind of living things, arbitrary grouped and separated in categories by science), and the individuals (be it that plant on my desk, you, or I). I don’t think they all need to have a purpose, nor that this purpose is the same.

To me, life has no purpose beside maybe being what it is. Like fire has no purpose, it simply burns and converts some types of maters into light and energy (heat). At the very least, I cannot imagine life as a 'conscious' being wanting something. It just is a state of thing/fact (being alive) that science still can’t explain or reproduce.

Species on the other hand they all share a same purpose, which is to thrive as a whole (grow in numbers, but not too much in order not to endanger the very space they need to live in). At least that's how I see it.

And then there are individuals. They may or may not have whatever purpose they fancy within a somewhat restrictive 'species limitation’.

I mean, as a butterfly I would not be able to live more than a few days no would I be able to mate with a whale, no matter how badly I would want it. And we, as humans, we may have managed to push our species limits way beyond what they were (we can fly, dive underwater, even go into space, we can also live much longer and if we still can't mate with any other non-human species we do have learned to manipulate their genome, who knows where that could lead us?) but all of that is still very fragile and very limited (flying is a thing as long as we have access to enough energy and knowledge, we live longer but we all still have to die no matter what we try). So, within those boundaries set by what our species is, I would say we're more or less free as individuals to be what we want to be. We’re less so in certain countries than others, and in certain times.

On the other hand, I have no idea what the idea of the individual could evoke in a bee's mind? Or 'personal desire'?

For me it would be to be a net positive to society in certain ways (that I’m not sure how to put into words and the bits I know how to could get long) before departing.

Imho, that is a very nice objective to pursue. No matter how you would manage to achieve that goal.

[-] Ziglin@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

When I wrote "I wonder whether all species or even just one actually have a (shared) purpose? As humans couldn’t we all just try to find our own?" I was trying to say that I don't see a species or all species as obviously having a purpose. Basically stating that what you said in the following quote is not a given to me.

Species on the other hand they all share a same purpose, which is to thrive as a whole (grow in numbers, but not too much in order not to endanger the very space they need to live in). At least that's how I see it.

And that I see species very similarly to the way you see life here:

To me, life has no purpose beside maybe being what it is.

If it comes up again it might be best to use the same definition for 'life' I personally like the one from Wikipedia: Life is a quality that distinguishes matter that has biological processes, such as signaling and self-sustaining processes, from matter that does not.

A species is only one possible configuration of life that produces similar copies of itself. What would give a species its purpose of thriving as a whole? If you ask me it just does, just like simpler systems also try to find a balance.

I've just realized that I made an error assuming that an individual having a purpose and their species having a purpose would be mutually exclusive. Though I do find the possibility of a species wide purpose for one to fulfill slightly constraining though I suppose it can be pretty permissive.

And then there are individuals. They may or may not have whatever purpose they fancy within a somewhat restrictive 'species limitation’.

I think we pretty much agree here.

I would say we're more or less free as individuals to be what we want to be.

Whether or not we have free will is something have not been able to decide for myself but it seems unlikely that it would require us to be able to control the reactions in our brains. Unless you really want to I would rather not open that whole new can of worms. Anyway I think there's nothing stopping whatever we are from being what we seem to want.

On the other hand, I have no idea what the idea of the individual could evoke in a bee's mind? Or 'personal desire'?

The personal desire seems impossible to answer. I'm also not sure how a bee could find its own individual purpose and I find likely that it is incapable of comprehending it. But could a beekeeper or even the bee's environment assign it an individual purpose (maybe less applicable to a bee than other species but I hope I'm making myself clear).