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is your voice offensive to other people
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Imo it's not your voice. It's not even "tone" in the musical sense of the term.
Tone is used by allistics to refer to the sum total of shit like pitch and prosody and inflection and facial expression and body language and connotation and implication and nonlexicals; it's the sum total of everything outside of the words themselves and then they run it through the allistic heuristic to determine the "vibe" of your communication and then respond to that.
It's basically a big overinterpretation and then they take offense at how they feel about you and blame you for their feelings and make demands that you adapt.
Not all allistic people and not all the time but I am/at least was higher masking and a big language nerd and even then it was a goddamned coin flip as to whether someone would get upset with me because they made themselves feel sad at their choice of interpretation of my words and then they'd demand satisfaction from me because of all this.
These are the people who tell autistic people "you can't demand that the whole world changes just to suit your needs" btw
Yeah me too. Language nerd has really helped me out.
Yeah. I used to say "im removed, I'm just much worse at being wrong and believing my own bullshit. It's a genetic thing." Or "im removed at being wrong. Which is a genuine handicap sometimes." When people want a short explanation of autism
What were the removed words in your post
A way I self identify sometimes to people who want a simple understanding of autism as something they can exploit. I'd type it here, but I already did, and I dont want to circumvent any filters.