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[-] NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I had a friend from high school that was a compulsive liar. we were friends for probably ~10 years and I never said anything because his lies were never hurtful lies. They were usually to entertain and were so obvious that any halfway intelligent person could spot them from a mile away. Fast forward to our early 20s and we're working security together. When I drive him home after a shift one day he started telling a story about how some guys tried to rob him with a knife outside his apartment but he turned the tables and took their knife and broke the guys arm in the process before they ran off. I finally asked him "what really happened?" and he looked at me hurt and didn't say anything. I later felt like a dick but his lies were growing in grandiosity to the point of offending some other people we worked with. A few months later he takes a shift with our supervisor who also happened to be a classmate and my buddy very intentionally fell asleep at the desk in the security office while using a second chair as a leg rest as the supervisor was doing a walking patrol of the building. Anyways, our supervisor came back and saw our buddy so the supervisor opened an emergency exit setting off the security alarm to see if he'd get up and respond. He did not. -That was my buddie's last shift. The following evening he texted me with some false explanation for why he was terminated. My response was "Dude, you were recorded on 3 different surveillance cameras sleeping next to the table we all watch the cameras on."

I didn't know that was the last time we'd talk. Less than 6 months later he had a bachelor party and a wedding neither of which I was invited to.

[-] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

I know that type. They always escalate their stories and think everyone's always believing them, when in reality, everyone's too polite to call them out, until they're not.

[-] SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

He sounds like the kind of guy who'd say they worked in the CIA or MI5. "Uhhh, people who actually work in those organizations NEVER tell you they work for those organizations. It is intelligence 101."

Pathological lying and grandiosity are trademarks of psychopathic behavior also.

[-] NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago

I've read similar things about lying being associated with anti-social personality disorders. Narcissism is also a common reason, but either way I'm confident he posessed empathy. I typically lean in the other direction that he was deeply insecure but also not the smartest. The stuff that offended colleagues (who were combat vets) was that he started making up stories about his time in the marines even though in reality he was discharged halfway through bootcamp. I asked him why he was discharged more than once and he gave me a different medical reason each time.

[-] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It's uncanny how similar your story is to mine: I once had a friend with a similar tendency to embiggen reality... he started with lightly embroidering his stories, but over the years the fantasy took more and more precedence until you weren't sure what was left of reality. It happened so gradually none of us knew how to react, should we burst his bubble? somehow it always seemed too harsh a reaction. One day he came to visit and said the most awful lies about our common friends... I never saw him again. Last I heard of him he had wholeheartedly subscribed to fascist ideas such as eugenics, etc. He's persuaded himself he is the most clever guy to ever live and he's unfit to live in this world necause nobody understands his genius. He's early thirties!

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 1 month ago

It's been bizarre realizing people are (likely) pathological liars (alor at least massive bullshitters). It's like, wow, you sure do seem to always have an interesting story to tell in every situation. Every situation.

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