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[-] Psychogasm@lemmy.world 95 points 1 month ago

Friends; plural. I quit drinking.

[-] LodeMike@lemmy.today 46 points 1 month ago

Sounds like a smart way.

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[-] MrShankles@reddthat.com 60 points 1 month ago

Cocaine laced with fentanyl. OD'd in the bathtub. Wasn't even (remotely) a regular user; just having a little extra fun on New Years. Was about to finalize the adoption of his and his wife's baby girl too

Another one from alcohol, fell asleep in the bath

Another one from an undiagnosed heart condition

Another from a peritoneal infection from peritoneal dialysis (they had sickle cell)

My sister from benzos and falling asleep in the bath

All of them in their 30's. Been a difficult few years of losing friends/family for me, ngl

[-] Thavron@lemmy.ca 30 points 1 month ago

Good lord what a hand you've been dealt. My sympathies.

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[-] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 17 points 1 month ago

That's really rough. I hope you are doing OK and taking care of yourself.

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[-] Annoyed_Crabby 53 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

This is ages ago, invited me to an MLM event without telling me it's MLM. I've experienced cult that night.

[-] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago

This hits close to home...

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[-] Skunk@jlai.lu 51 points 1 month ago

He became a Qanon ass licking dumbfuck and a pro Trump cum sandwich.

Also, we are French so his savior isn’t able to place us on a map.

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[-] EvilBit@lemmy.world 50 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

My best friend and I suggested online that maybe this friend of ours stop using “gay” as an insult (this was around 2009 or so) and he and his girlfriend became adamantly defensive and mean. When they implied that my best friend was molesting his beloved dog just to be assholes, I just cut the cord and walked away. They were idiots anyway.

Fun fact: the girlfriend was, and is, a huge “do good” volunteer advocacy leader. So, you know, help each other out, but don’t get in the way of my homophobic slurs.

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[-] Today@lemmy.world 45 points 1 month ago

Lost (sent away) two who tried to 'date' my husband.

[-] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 41 points 1 month ago

I bought tickets for a concert for us both provided she drive. She never showed up and didn't answer her phone or anything but was somehow mad at me a few days later.

[-] pr06lefs@lemmy.ml 33 points 1 month ago

Mad she didn't get invited to a concert my GF bought tickets to. Welp

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[-] ch00f@lemmy.world 31 points 1 month ago

I canceled on the biweekly DnD session because it was scheduled for Halloween and I had plans. Told him a little last minute (day before when I realized).

Dude torpedoed our 10 year friendship over that.

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[-] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 30 points 1 month ago

Dude became an outspoken anti vaxxer, tin foil hat wearing plandemic twat.

The final nail was when he shows up at our business out of the blue one day (literally had not spoken with him in almost a year) where he had left some oil paintings & other artwork to pick them up, then sent a shitty passive aggressive text the next day about how they were not kept in perfect condition.

My dude, you left them without a word otherwise over 4 years ago, we have shit to do besides take care of discarded art.

[-] hactar42@lemmy.world 29 points 1 month ago

I was in the military and was friends with a guy I worked with. When I got promoted I changed positions, so I didn't see him much at work, but we still hung out outside of work often.

One day he did something that could have gotten him in a lot of trouble. I was the only NCO (Sargent) around when it happened. My supervisor offered to take care of the punishment himself because he knew we were friends. I said no, he's my friend, I witnessed it, so I'll take care of it. Plus I was able to convince them to just give him some paperwork, instead of more severe punishment he could have had.

I took him into a private area, explained what he did wrong and that he was only getting paperwork. He didn't say a word, just signed it and walked out. I tried to go talk to him after work and his roommate came out calling me all sorts of names, asking how I could do that to him, and how I was a power tripping asshole, on and on. I asked if I could talk to my friend and explain and he told me my friend requested I never come back over.

I was at that base another year and he never talked to me again.

[-] JoeDyrt57@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 month ago

This is what happens when the rules don’t apply to everybody equally. The military is at the top of the class for doing so. Still it happens; where it appears a “guilty bastard” avoids the usual punishment thru influence, rank, or some other reason. It sets a very bad example, and the troops can get testy if they don’t get the same (perceived) treatment.

[-] Subtracty@lemmy.world 26 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

A friend of 8 years stole a few dresses from me while we were out on a trip. They weren't necessarily expensive, just cute sundresses that I had bought after saving up some money with my first big job. After returning home, I texted her to get one back because it was the dress I wore on my first date with my (now) husband and was sentimental. I was willing to part with the other ones. Her response was "Since I already have it with me, it would be easier if I just keep it and not have to find a way to get it to you."

We lived ~20 minutes apart. After that, I was ghosted. She continued to wear the dress and post photos online, blocking me so that I couldn't see, but other friends saw and reported back to me. Safe to say she was not invited to the wedding.

[-] Mothra@mander.xyz 11 points 1 month ago

Good riddance, sorry about the dresses though

That's such a weird way to execute that... like if you're gonna steal someone's style, just go buy copies or something very similar. Still weird, but way less weird than what this chick did.

Maybe she was trying to be you or some shit.

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[-] spittingimage@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

His last communication was a Facebook post to the world about how he only had room for supportive people in his life, not people who wanted to tear him down.

Guess he got tired of me saying mean things like "You should be paying your debt down, not buying things you can't afford" "Your wife is right and you shouldn't fight her on this" and "I understand that the universe rewards positive thought with positive destiny but you also need a plan".

[-] sgibson5150@slrpnk.net 23 points 1 month ago

Worst example is friend who, after being hospitalized for accident while car surfing, died car surfing again. I wasn't present for either event.

Second worst is dude with head injury (unrelated) started talking about crystals and toxins and juice fasting. Called him out one day, and it was catastrophic. This one is still alive, at least AFAIK.

Third, divorce. You will find out who your real friends are when you get divorced.

[-] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 12 points 1 month ago

Third, divorce. You will find out who your real friends are when you get divorced.

When my ex- and I were going through a divorce, they didn't want me to say anything publicly at all. They were insistent that it wasn't anyone else's business, and since I was trying to make the process as painless as possible, I assumed that this was a good-faith request.

I was wrong.

I was being silent, and they were telling everyone a load of horseshit about me, and bad-mouthing me in public to every single one of our mutual friends. I lost all but one of our mutual friends; my silence was assumed to be an admission of guilt.

[-] sgibson5150@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 month ago

I'm so sorry. I strongly suspect this happened to me as well. To this day I've never mentioned the evidence I had of her infidelity to anyone, because I'm a better person that she is. My former friends likely discovered this for themselves in due course.

[-] Vaggumon@lemm.ee 23 points 1 month ago

Brother: Lets just say we had a major disagreement in early November.

[-] thetreesaysbark@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Couldn't agree what stash you'd each grow for Movember? :D /s

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[-] 418_im_a_teapot@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago

I returned to my hometown to handle the passing of my grandfather. I didn’t call my friend, who I had known since preschool, to go hang out. In reality I didn’t give a single thought to contacting anyone I knew – I had family to take care of. He felt insulted by that and chose to never speak to me again.

If this sounds completely illogical, I can assure you I’m just as baffled as you.

[-] rautapekoni@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

One where I was dumb was when I sold my then one of best friends a laptop and took his word for him going to pay a week later even though I knew he was a small time grifter. We were tight so I thought he wouldn't screw me over but alas, believing in people is dumb.

The second was an online friend of many years and good emotional support one way and the other, but then out of the blue the dude starts spewing hate and straight up tells me he's a nazi. Fuck that guy. Well fuck the first guy too, but at least I knew the devil back then.

[-] s3rvant@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 month ago

Friend moved and changed his cell number at same time... I didn't yet have his email so lost contact.

Found him years later at a random shop, got his new contact info and still besties today :)

[-] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago

Lost all my friends every couple years growing up thanks to the US military moving us around. Do not recommend.

Got a great dad out of the situation though so I’m not bitter. Much.

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[-] tetris11@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 month ago

Good friend, helped me through my parents long divorce. I moved abroad and got a bit lonely out there. Him and his then longterm gf who I was also good friends with had planned to come out and see me.

They then split shortly before. I wanted to be friends with both of them, but if I'm honest with myself, I thought the gf had feelings for me, as her texts to me were getting very high in emoji content. I encouraged them both to come separately and my friend said that our friendship was over if his ex comes to visit me. I guess he knew me better than I knew myself.

He didn't visit, she did. Nothing happened but there were clearly mixed messages on my side. Lost two good friends in one go.

Have made a few good friends since then, but I do miss him and that social circle a lot. I surprisingly haven't learned to not take liberties in friendship circles, but I'm trying to learn.

[-] SexualPolytope@lemmy.sdf.org 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

He had an argument with my then girlfriend, and stopped talking to me for some reason. We never had any issues or arguments, but he simply won't reply to me or return my calls. After a while, I gave up. We had been friends for about 7 years at that point.

[-] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 month ago

I don't think there's a reason, which I think is the saddest reason. Growing up and drifting apart. Tried many times to fire up conversations but don't know where to start.

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[-] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago

Whenever I wanted to hang out she was at volleyball practice

[-] NeoToasty@kbin.melroy.org 17 points 1 month ago

In 2016, when I voted Bernie Sanders.

I lost two friends that year, because they wanted Clinton.

Welp, we knew who voted for the right person back then.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I came out as bi to her and then she thought me and my girlfriend wanted to sleep with her…

Her and I were close friends and confided in each other about depression, traumatic upbringings, and all sorts of stuff. I tell her in confidence that I think I’m bi and it’s something I struggled with all my life and only came to realize it then. She’s supportive because she’s pansexual and comes from a religious conservative background.

She asks me how my then girlfriend was taking it and I said she was excited because now she may get to have mmf and mfm threesomes. She says she thinks that’s really cool and asked if that meant we were open in the relationship so I said ya.

Fast forward a month or so later, she invites us all over to her place to hang out and smoke weed and chill and sleep over so we stay on the couch and she sleeps in her bed after a fun night. The next day she texts me that she’s not used to people treating her nicely and she thought she picked up vibes from both of us about wanting to sleep with her (???) and that she wasn’t comfortable with that.

We’re both shocked at this point because both of us had no intention of that and just wanted to chat, have weed, and talk about life and joke around and have fun. I tell her that this wasn’t our intent and that I’m really sad to hear that she felt that way from our actions and that we just wanted to enjoy her company since (I thought) we all had fun.

She went no contact pretty abruptly afterwards and 4 years later I’m still salty about the whole thing. I feel like I should not have shared that part about myself :(

[-] NauticalNoodle@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I had a friend from high school that was a compulsive liar. we were friends for probably ~10 years and I never said anything because his lies were never hurtful lies. They were usually to entertain and were so obvious that any halfway intelligent person could spot them from a mile away. Fast forward to our early 20s and we're working security together. When I drive him home after a shift one day he started telling a story about how some guys tried to rob him with a knife outside his apartment but he turned the tables and took their knife and broke the guys arm in the process before they ran off. I finally asked him "what really happened?" and he looked at me hurt and didn't say anything. I later felt like a dick but his lies were growing in grandiosity to the point of offending some other people we worked with. A few months later he takes a shift with our supervisor who also happened to be a classmate and my buddy very intentionally fell asleep at the desk in the security office while using a second chair as a leg rest as the supervisor was doing a walking patrol of the building. Anyways, our supervisor came back and saw our buddy so the supervisor opened an emergency exit setting off the security alarm to see if he'd get up and respond. He did not. -That was my buddie's last shift. The following evening he texted me with some false explanation for why he was terminated. My response was "Dude, you were recorded on 3 different surveillance cameras sleeping next to the table we all watch the cameras on."

I didn't know that was the last time we'd talk. Less than 6 months later he had a bachelor party and a wedding neither of which I was invited to.

[-] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

I know that type. They always escalate their stories and think everyone's always believing them, when in reality, everyone's too polite to call them out, until they're not.

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[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 month ago
[-] BrundleFly2077@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

Hop yo remem!

[-] zerozaku@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

I used to have an online friend who never really texts me first unless I do. Since they're a leftie, I wished them on Happy Left-handers Day and they replied that I don't need to wish them, which I only did to spark some conversation. This put me off and I went "Alr I won't bother texting you ever" and they went "Ok".

Haven't texted them in 3 months, neither did they (as they don't ever). Idk who is the idiot here, me, she or both.

I don't really like ending friendships from my side, so I might text them on her birthday and see how it goes.

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[-] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 month ago

Homie got way into flat-earth bullshit. We (me and other friends) tried everything from ridicule, indulgence, and finally offering "agree to disagree and stop talking about it". He went no-contact with all of us, sold his house and left town.

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[-] Clbull@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

A mutual friend of ours got into an argument with him because he made some new friends at his local pub and was buying pints for them left, right and centre. He took serious offence to the suggestion that they were using him for his money (he got about £120k in inheritance after his mum died) and cut both of us off, even though I never said anything to him.

I don't want to elaborate on his backstory but he had a lot of mental health problems and past trauma. After a lot of bad things happened a few years ago, he decided that he was done with life and vowed not to outlive his cats. Have tried to talk him out of it but he's set on ending his own life after his cats pass away.

I presume he's still alive, but I can't get in touch with him as he nuked his phone number and blocked me on all socials.

[-] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago

He chased a ball into the street.

[-] BlueSquid0741@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 1 month ago

Back in primary school (end of 1997), my best friend went to a different high school the next year and we never spoke again.

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[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 month ago

A friend tried to get me into Amway. I heckled him and refused.

He asked me again and I was more serious this time. I said no, and threatened if he asked me ever again it was the last he'd speak to me.

He asked again. I said "remember how I said we wouldn't be friends if you kept proselytizing that shit to me?", to which he replied, "yeah, but lemme sketch this out to you because it's awesome." Like, he wasn't sorry and he still tried to bring me onboard.

I left. Didn't speak to him for 31 years. He died in COVID.

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[-] 01011@monero.town 9 points 1 month ago

His girlfriend at that the time said I was handsome causing dude to become incredibly insecure and petty.

[-] AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 9 points 1 month ago

I let my agoraphobia get the better of me.

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