[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 10 points 6 hours ago

Yeah. Lost someone I thought would be a friend for life to the anti-vax movement of all things. Lost another to Trumpism. Yet another to the disease of money that turned them into the hateful, I-got-mine, everyone-else-is-just-lazy mindset.

kinda doomer-ishI get really defensive these days when people around me try to speak on things from a racist, ableist foundation and I haven't really found anyone irl who doesn't openly support the mass culling of who they consider "lesser" or "undeserving". Add being vegan into the mix and most people I meet end up treating me as though I'm cringe, entitled, and delusional. The older I get the less I'm willing to even share space with a lot of people because of how overwhelmingly toxic the overall mindset of those around me is. I know it's not the case everywhere, but where I live in the US the majority of folks you meet check a box that a lot of hexbears would say is deserving of the wall. I just try to treat everyone with a modicum of respect and a healthy dose of boundaries to protect myself until I can afford to relocate. In the end we can't force our views or experiences on others, and many will never fully understand what it really means to want to make changes for a better future.

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 5 points 13 hours ago

With Screwworm Myiasis as an added treat...

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago

"You see the huevos on this chick?"

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 52 points 3 weeks ago

Too autistic for neurotypicals, too neurotypically masked for autistic people most days bleh

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This is an org I came across a while back. As it says in the pic and on their homepage, they are all about "Mutual Aid and Human-Centered Learning for Neurodivergent and Disabled People".

Their 'encylopedia of difference' has a huge plethora of information on so many topics. Hope ya'll find it as helpful as I have.

"Stimpunks was forged in the quest for survival and inclusion. We are a 501(c)(3) nonprofit built by and for neurodivergent and disabled people. Stimpunks was founded in December of 2021. We are a community affair. We’re Autistic, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, Tourettes, schizophrenic, bipolar, apraxic, dyslexic, dyspraxic, dyscalculic, non-speaking, and more. We’ve collectively experienced rare diseases, organ transplants, various cancers, many surgeries and therapies, and lots of ableism and SpEd. We’ve experienced #MedicalAbleism, #MedicalMisogyny, #MedicalRacism, #MedicalTrauma, and #MedicalGaslighting. We understand chronic pain, chronic illness, and the #NEISvoid “No End In Sight Void”. We know what it’s like to be disabled and different in our systems. We know what it is like to live with barriers and what it means to not fit in and have to forge our own community. Disabled and neurodivergent people are always edge cases, and edge cases are stress cases. We can help you design for the edges, because we live at the edges. We are the canaries. We are “the fish that must fight the current to swim upstream.“

Here's a link to their burnout page, which is where I first found them from online searches. heart-sickle

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 59 points 2 months ago

I do this too, here's the most recent in my screenshots

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 36 points 10 months ago

FYI you got double posted

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 39 points 10 months ago

It would though

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It's scary

It's pretty alarming

There’s much more plastic in our brains than I ever would have imagined or been comfortable with

I'm so glad this is being studied so we can do absolutely nothing about it

[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 37 points 10 months ago
[-] un_mask_me@hexbear.net 59 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)
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I broke down today in a public setting when someone deliberately attempted to annoy me because they enjoy my reactions when I get upset. My question is, how to deal with such things? Any hexbears who regularly deal with this or have suggestions on how to handle such situations? Am I just fucked with dealing with assholes?

Content Warning: self-harmSo, I get sensory overload pretty easily with seemingly small auditory cues, such as whistling, intermittent humming, low frequency vibrations (like from old AC units or fluorescent light bulbs). Someone I am forced to interact with on a daily basis decided they wanted to make me squirm today by whistling off-key repeatedly, loudly, and very near to where I was working. When I asked them to stop they continued to do it, kind of like a sibling who is bored and wanting to get some entertainment by driving the other party crazy. After 20 minutes of it I was getting to the point of distress, and I asked them to please stop because it was making me uncomfortable, and their response was to try and do it more loudly. I finally went to them and talked to them directly, face to face, and all but begged them to stop because it was making me uncomfortable and it was getting disrespectful, near tears at that point, and they rolled their eyes and said "Sorry you got triggered". The reality was that I was to the point of starting to scratch myself with my nails to distract myself because I was so distraught from the noise, something that I've come to understand happens when I'm starting to dissociate. I'm ashamed to say I dug my nails in enough to draw blood and leave marks, something I haven't done in a long while. Ended up leaking a few tears, which is really embarrassing and shameful for me when I'm not alone...


I have to work with this person every day, and I can't wear headphones/ play music/ do things to block them out like I normally would. I just got this job but I'm already to the point where my mental health is being trashed after just a few weeks. Am I SOL? Anyone have anything that could help with this, even if it's suggestions on dealing with over stimulation in a work setting as someone with autism? I keep my ND a secret; no one knows I'm on the spectrum. ...am I overreacting? niko-tear-wipe

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