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It’s for my worldbuilding, !Beckyland@lemmy.ml

It’s for my worldbuilding, !Beckyland@lemmy.ml

My sister Lena’s boyfriend Dominic has French parents who he says don’t speak any English at all. Dominic could just translate for them, but if our parents our meeting his, is there a more convenient way or will he just have to translate all the time?

Like, what if his parents just want to communicate with ours without Dominic or Lena? Do they just use the voice to translated text?

My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.

My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.

(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)

I posted about my friend once, Jaiden. Just for background or recap, I encountered Jaiden on a post about abusive parents. We chatted in the DMs of Reddit and became friends on Discord.

Jaiden has a lot of disabilities, including autism, C-PTSD, and ADHD. She has dealt with a lot of trauma in her life. Plus, she is a trans lesbian sheltered from the world. She is seen as a guy with transphobic and homophobic parents who are narcissistic/have NPD.

She has been traumatized in other ways that I will not name. However, despite not having resources and being very poor and sheltered, she is very ambitious. She constantly vents to me and others, so much so, that others have left her besides me, and has a whole list of things she wants to accomplish.

She wants to become very rich, talented, and good at everything. She also wants God to fear her, she said. She wants to become better than everyone else so that everyone will idolize her and become impressed.

When I question how realistic it’d be, she lashes out at me, but when I go along with it, she gets mad at me for believing in her and keeps asking me why I believe so much.

She believes she’s some sort of hero, which she might be. She has dealt with so much trauma, plus, she says she wants to become a celebrity and that her friends are celebrities or well-known.

What do you think of her information and how can I help?

She’s AMAB and possibly transfem(??)

Anyway, they’re in the eighth grade and my sister Lena’s friend is somewhat depressed.

Like the age requirement for most Lemmy instances (except for a few which I believe are 13+ or no age due to not being NSFW), I’m 24F. I’m married and live with my wife at her house.

My sister Lena is 9 years younger than me (2010, 14F) and currently has a boyfriend Dominic (16).

One day, my sister’s friend from school (I’m not sure who, so I’ll say Kate) had a group call with some friends and invited Lena to meet them. She saw Dominic there and decided to talk to him one-on-one. For now, they just do audio and video calls, but they both found out they apparently live in the same state (he asked: “Where are you from? I’m from [insert state here]”.)

As an adult and her older sister, I’m not her legal guardian, but seeing as we’ve seen his face and he already knows her friend, I’m fine with it.

Our dad, though, is pretty cautious. Lena says she’s tried everything she could think of, from going to the movies, to going to some other public places, to just having him outside of the house or on the sofa in the house.

Dad is concerned that since they’re both teenagers, they’re going to do sexual stuff even if both of them stay right there in his sight. Like I said, I’m not her legal guardian, but if it were me, I’d say it was fine as long as they didn’t leave my sight (or if he came over to the house, if they keep the bedroom door open or don’t go in there at all.)

I’m glad they’re calling, since the relationship will probably feel more real than just 24/7 texting, but I feel like it would be good for Lena to actually see Dominic in person and become physically close (in the non-sexual sense of hugging, hand holding, etc.)

For some background, one of my other friends, I’ll call her Penny (19F) was dealing with her dad with NPD. I looked for some advice on a subreddit called r/raisedbynarcissists. That’s when I believe what happened is that I asked something about narcissistic parents, and Jaiden (24F) shared her story in the comments. I felt really bad for her and decided to help her out and talk to her.

She then asked me if we could talk in the Reddit DMs. I said yes and she then asked me if I have Discord. We now talk on Discord and I was shadowbanned on Reddit for some reason. (Anyway, I use Lemmy now, which has a much better community besides certain jerks and trolls which you’ll find on any somewhat large platform).

Since this was a while ago, we’ve talked a lot since then and she’s dealt with a lot. For starters, she’s Asian and lives in a very traditional Filipino community with Chinese heritage. Her entire family is not only traditional, but abusive, narcissistic, and neo-Nazis who support eugenics and Hitler. [I find it odd that Filipinos of Chinese descent would be this way but people are very strange.]

While stuck in her parents’ house being BEATEN, she can’t do much about her situation. While stuck in the house, she is incredibly motivated and wants to do all these things. Not only does she have a very long list of things, but she wants to become famous and good at EVERYTHING all at once, surpass her friends (who are either extremely talented or celebrities) and be the greatest person ever.

She always asks me if I think she’ll be the greatest person in the world, so I say yes. I don’t want to discourage her. Plus, I can’t predict the future. She may well become the greatest in the world. I know she’ll become very depressed and angry if I say no, and it’s simply rude.

I don’t know what to do or how to help besides comfort her. I don’t know how she can achieve her goal of becoming the greatest ever either.

It made me wonder, hearing from certain people who faced discrimination and harassment. They were hurt every single day intentionally and some of them had PTSD caused by their harm and became incredibly jumpy and traumatized.

Would that make the person who caused the harm evil?

I do

My sister Lena’s friend regularly screamed at her, made fun of people, was ableist, etc.

She is on-and-off nice and mean. Right now, she’s nice. Before, she hated Lena. Now, she likes Lena. In a few months, she’ll hate Lena again.

Lena’s friend believes nothing is ever her fault and refuses to get help. She is very secretive and guarded, and acts very paranoid. Along with her defensive behavior, this makes me think she’s sadly being abused if she isn’t just a jerk.

She has quite the ego, but I’m not sure if it can be justified. Lena wants to be her friend and help her even with her behavior.

(She apparently has NPD)

So, even though I used to have conservative views on society and the government, I supported liberal social rights such as minorities, LGBT, etc.

Never liked Trump or the venom spit by him and his followers. Always felt their views were too extreme and needlessly hated minorities.