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I've had multiple family members deployed to active warzones.

Whenever we talked about war, it was never about politics. It was always "X's tour is supposed to finish next month," or "I heard something happened near [town], wasn't X deployed near there?"

I know how everyone talks about it on the internet, but what is it like for you at home?

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[-] BertramDitore@lemm.ee 76 points 1 week ago

My family still has pretty significant generational trauma from surviving the Holocaust, so the genocide going on in Palestine is quite black and white for us. It’s wrong, Israel’s behavior is monstrous and immoral, and it needs to stop. The Palestinians never deserved this. We talk about it constantly.

Your question kinda implies that we all must have family deployed in a war zone though (unless I misunderstood), and that’s not the case. I’m American. I do have some Israeli relatives who I won’t ever speak to again because they support the genocide, but they’ve all aged out of the army.

[-] underline960@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 week ago

Your question kinda implies that we all must have family deployed in a war zone though

I didn't mean to come off that way.

All of the Jewish people I've met had some kind of on-purpose connection to Israel, like family members who lived there, or a community-sponsored coming-of-age trip, etc.

My having family deployed is the closest thing I have to that kind of personal connection to a place in the middle of a war, but I expected your experience to be different from mine.

[-] BertramDitore@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago

Right on, that’s my bad. I read too far between the lines.

[-] victorz@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

❤️ I'm sorry it's affecting you (all) in this way. I agree that the double standard of Israel is just utterly incomprehensible. How can they do unto others the same atrocities done unto them. I just do not understand.

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[-] oakey66@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

My family agrees that Israel learned nothing from the fascism that their families escaped and fought against and believes Israel is committed to nazism against Arabs. But my ex’s family is the typical liberal Zionist family that attributes all of this at the feet of hamas and Netanyahu. It’s a form of delusion that prevents any dialogue about the subject. They read passages from the Passover Seder with absolutely zero connecting of the dots to the horrors the state of Israel is committing against a helpless population. It completely makes clear to me how Hitler came into power and it makes me sad.

Fixed spelling error.

[-] somethingsnappy@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

"Liberal Zionist?" Asking because I dont understand, not attacking anything.

[-] Mrkawfee@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Liberal Zionists prefer more palatable methods for eliminating Palestinians (cultural erasure, apartheid, legalized land seizure) but they don't oppose genocidal escalations when they do occur.

[-] sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 week ago

I don't even know what anyone means when they throw out "liberal" anymore.

[-] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 1 points 1 week ago

My working definition is something like liberals would like everyone to be happy and get along but aren't willing to give up an ounce of their own privilege for that to happen. Also quite ignorant about the actual realities of the social issues they allegedly care about. Can be mixed with many other ideologies because it doesn't have any political substance of its own.

[-] oakey66@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

They would prefer a two state solutions but believe Arabs and Jews are incompatible together. They are otherwise relatively progressive for their age. They're Bernie supporters. it's what is called Progressive Except Palestine (PEP).

[-] Apollo98@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Zionism wasn’t just taught to the boomer generation in America their entire lives, there was no other concept at all. The reality was that Jews belonged in Israel and no other context was provided. It was true for our Jewish education, too, but the internet and global media has changed things. It’s really hard to get someone to understand that we are not Israel and Jews are not Israel. We are not them and this is something we should be condemning. I had a bit of a time just getting my father to come around to the idea that a ceasefire might be a good idea on account of all the children being killed. That’s how deep this goes even oceans away.

[-] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago

There's a synagogue right in the center of Munich that has been flying the Israeli flag since the October 7 attacks. At the time fair enough but now? I just don't understand it. The Israeli flag is guarded by road spikes, police with MPs as well as private security (rather the synagogue is but that's where the flag is after all) while showing the Palestinian flag can get you arrested. All in the name of combatting antisemitism. It's one big powder keg.

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago

My family overwhelmingly supports the genocide and the Israeli government. My father even thinks they arent going far enough and my mother just wants it to look pretty. The majority of Jewish people (especially religious people) see not only Palestinians but all muslims as lesser people.

Im not intrested in hearing "not all Jews" like its supposed to make me feel better because it doesn't. It just whitewashes real issues and fundamental problems with the Jewish community. The simple fact that Zionists control Jewish education and own most Jewish institutions, and they use it to spread hate.

[-] Geetnerd@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

The easiest way to understand this is this way:

Not all Jews are Zionist ultra-right psychopaths, just like not all Christians are in the Klan, or Aryan Brotherhood, or money worshiping Neocons.

[-] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

But don't most Israelis* take part in the killing (either directly or indirectly by being a POG) through their military service? In America, I could believe that while most people are stupid and amoral, there are only a minority of bloodthirsty racists...

[-] MonkRome@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Most Jews don't live in Israel. 18 million Jews, 7 million live in Israel. The way you framed your comment doesn't really make sense. You're talking about Israelis, not Jews as a whole.

Yeah, most Israelis, let me change that up quick.

[-] Mustakrakish@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Its a genocide, not a war

[-] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 week ago

My ex is Jewish and my kids are half Jewish. Our discussions have been focused on the fact that what Netanyahu is doing has been making Jews less safe around the world. anti-Semitism is rising because of the fact he is murdering innocent people and children

My kids are less safe because of the Israeli PM and his Zionist government

[-] rumimevlevi@lemmings.world 1 points 1 week ago

I wonder if they admit that other prime ministers been oppressing Palestinians too and resulted Hamas throwing rockets toward Israel

[-] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago

Not a Jew, but my family's Jewish, and it's about as difficult as you'd expect. They get offended by the slightest implication that maybe Israel isn't perfect, assume I support Hamas just because I'm opposed to the IDF killing children - to clarify, I'm opposed to anyone killing children, including Hamas. We don't talk about it that much though.

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[-] 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

~~There's something wrong in your story. Jesus?~~

[-] pulsewidth@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Religious Jews believe in Jesus as a person that existed. Opinions on him range from very negative to very positive, it's complex and varied - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_views_on_Jesus

Possible this guy's family has a very positive view of Jesus.

Who do you think Jesus was? A Buddhist preacher? 😅

[-] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

That's the thesis defended in The Man From Earth -very entertaining fiction

[-] Tedesche@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I’m an American atheist Jew, and I’ve had conversations with my (converted) mother about it. She’s pretty solidly on Israel’s side, but she’s also not very educated about the conflict. She just kinda goes by the mainstream media’s narrative and doesn’t think too much beyond that. When I present her with information, she’s horrified and agrees with me that “Israel is going too far,” but it never results in her thinking the U.S. should stop sending them money. She hates Netanyahu and his conservative government, but she’s very hung up on Hamas being a terrorist organization. And I suppose I am too, to be honest. I want a free Palestine and for the Israeli settlers to be expelled, but I don’t want to support Hamas and I think they should pretty much be eradicated. I’m just much more willing to condemn Israel for their actions than she is; she’s very caught on the idea that Israel has a right to defend itself from Palestinian terrorism, and has a hard time seeing that it’s gone way past that at this point.

[-] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 week ago

Hamas being a terrorist organization.

For what it is worth the Warsaw Uprising and the Yugoslavian Partizans were also terrorist uprisings against their legal governments that were committing a (technically legal) Holocaust.

[-] Jollyllama@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I know my family are raging Zionist so I don't even bring it up.

[-] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 1 points 1 week ago

How did you manage to differ?

[-] Jollyllama@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

🤷 The woke mind virus got me.

I think it comes down to exposing myself to other people and their perspectives. As a teen I was as racist as any Zionist. Once I moved away from home and met people from outside of my insulated Zionist/Jewish community I started hearing other perspectives. This led me to take a serious look at Zionism and the state of Israel including how they operate to maintain apartheid. I didn't like what I saw, I tend to be an empathetic person so it really hurt to see my people and culture I identified with take part in these Injustices.

What followed was years of deprogramming and the painful process of coming to terms with the fact that Israel were the bad guys in this scenario. I grew up in the West Bank on a settlement so the roots went deep and they were painful to RIP out. A great eye opening book I read was "A Day In The Life Of Abed Salama". It really helped connect the puzzle pieces and pull down the propaganda curtain that I experienced growing up in a Jewish settlement.

Also my parents were born in the 60s so probably lead poisoning right?

[-] andrewrgross@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

My brother and I (both 38) actively speak out and oppose it.

My mom has been sort of in a state of shocked bewilderment. She's horrified and also constantly confused as though trying to comprehend how 2+2 = 5. For her, it doesn't make sense: Jews aren't killers, they're victims. But they're killing all these civilians. Why would anyone want to keep the war going instead of getting the hostages back? Netanyahu is a monster. We all know this. Why is he still in charge?

I'm sorry that she's suffering (then again, anyone of concience is). She's also expressed a sense of alienation, since she has no idea how others feel, because she doesn't feel like it's socially acceptable to say what she feels outside the home. But I'm grateful that this hasn't created any conflict between me and her. She doesn't feel as comfortable as I do saying the plain facts of it, but I remind her that all my convictions are a reflection of the values she raised in me, and I think that reflects highly of her.

[-] Yossarian@programming.dev 0 points 1 week ago

Just wanted to say you're getting a skewed picture of people's opinions, as Lemmy isn't popular / well known at all in Israel.

The absolute majority of Jews in Israel are united in wanting the hostages back (currently 58, of which an estimated half are still alive).

A lot want that and to end the war ASAP, not for any real concern for the Palestinians, but for the troops, the economy, and world image.

A lot want to keep going to eradicate Hamas and Hezbollah and Houthis to prevent October 7th from ever happening again.

It's difficult to be pro Palestinian when your friends and family have been slaughtered or held hostage by a (seemingly) unprovoked attack against soldiers and civilians.

The Overton window in Israel doesn't currently allow it, though things might have been changing very recently.

At least here, we don't discuss it much in the same way we don't discuss the mountain near town; it's there, we can't move it, shrug your shoulders, it's part of the landscape.

[-] barneypiccolo@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Important distinction that might help you: Being against this war doesn't make you "Pro Palestinian," it just makes you anti-war, and especially, anti-genocide. On the flip side, being anti-war/ anti-genocide doesn't make you anti-Semitic.

Genocide is NEVER justified.

[-] GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This is a lengthy question, but it comes from a place of positive intent and genuine inquiry.

As someone stateside with Jewish friends in JVP as well as Palestinian sympathies of my own, this is context that I'm missing. I read about the refusenik movement and the Likud Party's stances on conscientious objectors. And similarly, Holocaust denial on the Hamas side and openly cidal rhetoric. I read a bit about the original treaty between Mohammed and the other local tribes, as it was a founding document for sharia law. As a result, the subsequent Jewish exile shaped the lives and culture of the diaspora. Not just their religion, but their philosophy and morality. The genocide of the Holocaust led a number of German and European Jews to be given the option--from the bloodied hands of the Nazi regime--an opportunity to instead be deported to Palestine as part of the Haavara agreement. The following Nakba, what Israel describes as the War of Independence, was described by neutral parties in the region as a massacre by extreme-right settlers who killed Palestinian Arabs (regardless of religious denomination) and Jewish sympathizers equally. Subsequent laws drawing the lines of Israel by the 1948 lines drew Palestinian Arabs as blatant second class citizens in what I, as an outsider, percieve as a reflection of Sharia law. Gaza's creation as an open air prison complex is, by national convention, a collective punishment.

This is the context as far as I understand it. Forgive the gaps in my knowledge, I'm a white American with no religious or familial ties to either. But if both the Israeli system treats non-Jews as an other to be eliminated, and the pro-Caliphate extremists favor nearly identical conditions for non-Muslims, which is better? Each regime results in an apartheid-driven ethnostate. Each party having, at one point or another in the past several hundred years, perpetrated several wars and genocides against one another in a struggle for a piece of land that has formed the axis of every major Abrahamic religious conflict since the 8th century, is... a lot.

Is returning a genocide for a genocide right? Is it equitable to vow the extermination of an outsider as vengeance for a crime that their great grandparents don't remember? Obviously, my fluency in both cultures is severely limited, and I'm trying my best to understand. But if the sanctity of life and the forgiveness of one's enemies are values held by both cultures, what is the catalyst for this genocide as it stands currently?

If this sounds like an attack, I swear it isn't. I haven't had a conversation with someone actually from Israel concerning the matter, believe it or not. So my picture of the situation has been incomplete. Obviously, this was never about October 7th. This started long before that. But where, and when? And why?

October 7th? Seemingly unprovoked?

Do they not understand how Israel was created and how it's maintained ? It's like if the Europeans who invaded, pillaged and settled in North America also stole their identities afterwards to spin the narrative! After all, Germanics and Eastern Europeans are as Semitic as I am a lady (I'm a hairy dude). The only moral thing to do is to condemn Israel as the European colonial project it always was, and not to take part in the killing at the very least.

But how can "Jews" (Moses killed ONE man in a way that one Palestinian could kill one low level IDF soldier and that was enough for him to realise that wasn't the way... how do they claim to fear God? Lol) talk about it in earnest when their hands are covered in blood? The cowardly, weak and irresponsible way of acting will follow their personalities and they'll just have a tantrum not to accept the reality of things: if you were part of the IDF, you 100% murdered innocents and have probably earned your place in Hell (definitely if you never repent!). I understand how sensitive that can make one feel, at the same time I understand they're truly horrible human beings who will make any excuses and believe any lies necessary, so honest dialogue is impossible...

[-] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)
  1. "Seemingly unprovoked" does not mean unprovoked, but perceived as unprovoked

  2. The post asked for how Jewish opinions, this reply tries to sum up what they hear. Don't shoot the messenger.

Of course you can (and should, inho) disagree with the general opinion, fuck, they've been reelecting that absolute moron for how long?

[-] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

At no point did I shoot the messenger, I'm just empathically saying there's no fence sitting in this situation that's extremely clear for anyone except those with a very 'European colonizer' mindset.

[-] Wazowski@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

lol bruh, nonexistent. I’m not into starving civilians, my family’s not into thinking. One cannot overstate the intergenerational trauma of the holocaust and how it impacts the worldview of the children of survivors.

[-] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

One cannot overstate the intergenerational trauma of the holocaust and how it impacts the worldview of the children of survivors.

Which is odd considering it was the Germans that committed the holocaust and I'm sure these people you speak of have no issue with Germany now while Palestine never committed genocide and yet they're the villians because the holocaust happened.

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