I hope you like clutter because gitlab's interface is atrocious...

Thanks! It's extremely insightful to get a peek behind the scenes like this. Stuff like this always happens behind closed doors and threads like yours really help shine some light :)

There's something to say for it if one party gave up work to become a stay at home parent I guess. You're at a pretty severe disadvantage if you need to enter the job market with a significant gap in your resume. So if you consider marriage a contract wherein one person put themselves at a disadvantage to raise the children o the condition that the other would in turn provide for the both of them, you could argue that they're entitled to some form of compensation when that contract is broken. Whether that compensation should be indefinite I leave on the table.

Do you remember/are at liberty to elaborate on the reasoning and course of events at the time that lead to defederating?

Wasn't XMPP EEE'd by Google? Not to say that Meta is any better of course

Didn't twitter just default on a massive google cloud bill on the first of July? This is pure speculation, but it wouldn't surprise me if the rate limiting is a direct consequence of them having to massively scale back infra because of getting kicked from Google cloud