I'm not just saying this because you said you're a woman but I liked https://nostarch.com/smartgirlsguide
For my friends with kids about to use the internet without restriction I've been getting them copies so they have something to refer to if they need it. It's a good overview and leads to books better suited for specific topics.
The books from this guy have also been pretty helpful: https://inteltechniques.com/books.html
Think of it like 'motherfucker'. No one is calling people mothers and accusing them of fucking. I do like your interpretation though. If that hasn't been the premise for a movie or TV show then it probably should be.