My moms a boomer and this has been her go-to.
“Being gay wasn’t a thing when I was younger. No one was gay! Or trans! It’s just a trend now because people don’t discipline their kids anymore!”
Yes mom because they were afraid of people like you.
Why did they feel the 'need' to enact anti-sodomy laws which sometimes even specifically mentioned same-sex relationships if there were no gay people?
My mom has moved onto the Bargaining phase from Denial, pivoting to saying, "well sure there were always a few, but most of them now are doing it because it's popular, and aren't 'real' gay people".
Lmaooo, "popular". I find it so funny when people unironically think that
Like, yeah, I'm just gonna go date and sleep with a person I'm not attracted to because it's "popular", lol
Though the fucked up thing is that, this is something that has happened with gay people trying to be straight
When I was in middle school, I was sorta wondering if guys just pretended sexual attraction was a thing because it was expected of them.
Then I realized that such seemed like a ridiculous theory (although I still assumed it was exaggerated for social reasons and didn't really think sexual attracted was related to interest in sex for a long time after...).
Move out if you haven't already, that way you can freely call her out on her bullshit all you want without consequence.
Calling her out while moved out will still have consequence. My entire family thinks the same way or more extreme.
What kind of parental discipline keeps people from being gay?
I don't think there's ever going to be an answer to that question that isn't somehow abusive.
Before I read your second sentence I was already saying in my head "The hitting kind, duh"
Massive social shaming from all the "good Christians" at Church
Cayenne pepper forced in the mouth, lots of hitting, throwing shoes, lots of yelling.
Your mom's a dumbass, there's no shortage of stories from ancient Rome and Greece of gay activity.
Boomers aren't exactly well known for understanding concepts like "survivorship bias".
Don't you know? All of their friends survived covid!
Also, there's probably a chunk of them who couldn't identify as a particular brand of queer, because they didn't even know it was an option. Ace and non-binary folks come to mind.
yeah I hate the modern conception that adults can't be in the closet
Idk, the number of 60-80 year olds on my gay fetish apps sliding into my DMs seem to contradict this "lack of boomer LBGTQ" idea.
Same with autism.
I knew a boomer that once gave my male friend some advice.
"Never marry a lesbian. She might be able to force it for a while, but she will always eventually turn back."
Dinosaurs weren't discovered until the late 1800s. Dinosaur fossils obviously didn't exist before then. All of the fossils being found in the 1900s was just a fad.
Don't you know the devil planted them.
I'm in the closet. Its a nice closet.
The 60s and 70s free love movement, or just rock and roll/dancing "hedonism" had bigger barriers to break down than organized lgbtq identity movements. The simple freedom to have sex with who you wanted with criminal immunity was "the ask". There didn't need to be pride in doing it, and socially, it was still an insult even after it was legal.
Can you elaborate?
Activism for the social justice of marriage equality 90s was more unionized LG than decriminalization of 60s which was just G. Political volunteering had a genuine universal human right to it. Pride, hate speech protections, and DEI employment inclusions was activism that was more supremacist than boomers reached for. Boomers wanted freedom, but didn't need/reach for status of "equally normal" or identity power. They were happy to have big city gay bars, disco culture, or rocky horror picture show, though that blurs into gen x. The term LGBTQ is a fairly recent invention.
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