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Yeah they are, its like the main part of their job. Some are just really shit at it.
Well, shit.
My parents served as an example of "what not to do".
I made a personal vow years ago, that i would never be what my dad was to me, to anybody else...
Your role models are your own. If you aren't modeling your behavior after your parents, then they aren't your role models, straight up. You may model certain behaviors from them, but not others.
Break it down a smidge. What role are you modeling? If you had a really good teacher in the past, and you use how they taught you to teach someone else, they are the role model for you when teaching someone, but they aren't your role model for something like how to treat your partners.
That's the neat thing about being your own person. You get to be who you want, treat people how you want. Your role models are who you want them to be. I would caution against being an asshole, though. Don't model asshole behavior.
Also parents can still be role models even if they are shit parents. You just flip the script from be like these people to a list of what not to do.
The fact you are asking this question shows great self awareness and that's half the battle right there.
I’m a father of 5 and it’s always in the front of my mind.
Modelling good behaviour is the most effective parenting method.
If they see you being a hypocrite and acting like an angry fool while trying to force them to be angels, they will just rebel against you.
Yes. But sometimes they aren't.
Supposed to be. From a pure animal point of view They're successful enough to have reproduced. Given that between them they make up your entire genetic composition, the wisest course of action is to emulate them.
Then human society got to a point where the bar for survival/reproduction is so low that it's not necessarily a good idea to emulate them.
Sometimes they just serve as a warning.
They are, for better or worse. Kids learn to be people from the people around them. The only situation where your parents aren't role models is when they aren't around you, and that's a sort of role model in its own way.
Kids also learn from their peers, their mentors, their heroes, etc, so it's not like kids of shitty people are completely fucked.
Parents can be role models, if they are good or bad ones depends on who informs your perspective.
You're "supposed" to have more than two. How could two people possibly form the representation of how you should act in every circumstance?
this post was submitted on 28 Apr 2025
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