The wording "couldn't talk correctly" can come across as ableist because of the implication that it's their problem. They speak differently than you, or whomever.
Whether someone has a speech impediment, a thick accent, speaks another language, or is non-verbal, doesn't really matter. What matters is that the two of us are able to communicate effectively and that's a two way street.
It IS ableist to expect everyone to communicate the same way - and by saying that this person doesn't speak correctly, you may have given your friend that impression. Knowing that you yourself have struggled with a speech impediment, my guess is that what you were trying to convey was that you felt badly about the challenges that person may face in a very ableist society.
Let me know if you think I'm totally off base - I'm really interested in folks perspectives.
oooohhhh ok i get it
how odd that people outside the sc uses that word
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