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my good friend who i really like called me ableist. context? i was talking to her about a guy with a disability. that’s all i said, i wasn’t making fun of such a guy.

i said something like the guy couldn’t talk correctly and i felt bad for him, and i also can’t talk correctly at times (stutter)

she said i was being rude and ableist, and the older lady/teacher i was with said how dare i say such a thing and label the guy, that i should be ashamed for “making the guy on the video feel bad”.

i, too, have a disability, and they asked me, “how would you feel someone said you had a disability!?”

i said i wouldn’t care because i do. they got mad.

she and the teacher forgave me, but i don’t know how to feel about this. i’m still trying to process everything and i don’t get it.

everyone else says that i didn’t say anything discriminatory at all, since i wasn’t making fun of him or using slurs.

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[-] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 14 points 1 month ago
[-] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

probably

edit: yes it is

[-] potate@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

The wording "couldn't talk correctly" can come across as ableist because of the implication that it's their problem. They speak differently than you, or whomever.

Whether someone has a speech impediment, a thick accent, speaks another language, or is non-verbal, doesn't really matter. What matters is that the two of us are able to communicate effectively and that's a two way street.

It IS ableist to expect everyone to communicate the same way - and by saying that this person doesn't speak correctly, you may have given your friend that impression. Knowing that you yourself have struggled with a speech impediment, my guess is that what you were trying to convey was that you felt badly about the challenges that person may face in a very ableist society.

Let me know if you think I'm totally off base - I'm really interested in folks perspectives.

[-] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 1 month ago

oooohhhh ok i get it

[-] Ledericas@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

how odd that people outside the sc uses that word

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