It's always nice when toxic people pair up. They can just be toxic to each other and leave the rest of us out of it.
What happens if he says yes? Then you are trapped alone with him. Seems worse lol
Punctuation
One time a guy, I was with, was like; "all your male friends[ want to fuck you]© you should stop seeing them" ... And I was like {all your male friends want fuck me too™ we should stop seeing them"¢ and that's when I learned toxic masculinity can be funny~ when I do it®
Yur rite🤾♂️prononicitating correct like makes it much more 🦐
The message is clear, who cares?
The message is needlessly convoluted, that is why I said something. Be mad.
so there i was minding my own business when suddenly someone decided to become the ultimate guardian of punctuation like seriously who died and made you the king of commas and periods i mean really do you go around with a red pen in your hand just waiting to correct people is it a hobby or are you just that bored with your life let me tell you something oh mighty punctuation overlord the world is not going to end if someone forgets a comma or misplaces a semicolon i know it might be hard for you to grasp but people can actually understand sentences without perfect punctuation it's almost like we have this amazing ability to comprehend context and meaning even when a sentence isn't perfectly structured with all the right punctuation marks in place i mean do you think shakespeare sat around worrying about punctuation probably not he was too busy writing amazing plays and sonnets that people still love today and guess what his punctuation wasn't always perfect either but here you are in the 21st century acting like the punctuation police as if the world will crumble if someone forgets an oxford comma oh the horror i can just see you now clutching your pearls at the sight of a misplaced apostrophe but let me ask you something oh wise one do you think people will remember you for your impeccable punctuation or for being a pedantic nuisance who couldn't see the forest for the trees because let me tell you something the world is full of beautiful imperfect things and sometimes a sentence without perfect punctuation is just a reflection of that imperfection so next time you feel the urge to correct someone's punctuation maybe take a deep breath and remember that life is too short to worry about such trivial things and who knows maybe you'll find that the world is a much happier place when you're not constantly nitpicking every little punctuation mark or maybe you'll just find a new hobby like knitting or birdwatching anything really that doesn't involve being a punctuation tyrant but hey that's just my opinion i could be wrong maybe you're just a punctuation superhero saving the world one comma at a time but somehow i doubt it so go ahead and keep being the punctuation police but don't be surprised if people start rolling their eyes every time you open your mouth because let's face it nobody likes a grammar nasi and yes i spelled nasi with an s just to annoy you because sometimes you just have to break the rules to make a point and maybe just maybe you'll learn to lighten up and enjoy life without worrying about every little punctuation mark but i won't hold my breath because let's face it some people just love being pedantic and there's nothing anyone can do about it so good luck with your punctuation crusade i'm sure it's a very fulfilling way to spend your time and who knows maybe one day you'll look back and realize that life is too short to worry about such trivial things but until then i'll be over here writing sentences without perfect punctuation and enjoying the freedom that comes with it so goodbye oh mighty punctuation overlord may your commas always be in the right place and your semicolons never be misused but most importantly may you find something more meaningful to do with your time than policing other people's punctuation because let's face it the world has enough problems without you adding to them with your pedantic ways.
Let you're Jesus live they're life, They're fighting the patriarchy;
(There I used an extra cup of grammar; I even made sure I used words with apostrophes for you)
Im sorry if its misogynistic but I dont really want a woman nobody else wants to fuck.
Like... if the consensus is "Naaaaaah" theres probably a really good reason.
The fact that you're basing your desire on anyone else's opinions at all means you are not based. Next.
The fact that you don't take other people's opinions into account for desire may suggest you lack Theory of Mind. You should get that looked into. Other people's dispositions toward something are one of the best heuristics available for quickly learning about that thing.
People are downvoting you, but there's truth there. I assume you're not just talking about looks, because that would be stupid and you deserve all the downvotes. However, If a woman has some major red flags that everybody except you knows about, than your statement holds. For example when you join a new friend group or you move to a new town and you think you meet a nice girl, bit everybody starts warning you te get out.
Back in the day, we used the maxim of "don't stick your dick in crazy". You can't say that anymore in this time of nazis and toxic masculinity, but I think this is what OP means.
That comment is badly phrased, but I can appreciate at least some of the sentiment. I’ve always felt pride if other people have found my partner attractive. It appeals to my self-esteem and vanity knowing that this person who is desired by others, chose me.
Finding someone attractive and wanting to fuck them are two distinct things.
I can appreciate someone being very fucking attractive indeed, despite not wanting to fuck them due to me not wanting to fuck people in relationships.
It's like imagine someone really fucking sexy to you. Now imagine you have no condoms and you know they have full blown AIDS. Does that perhaps make you less willing to fuck said person? Would for me.
I feel like there's a difference between the two but judging by this comment section lemmy doesn't do nuance.
Exactly which nuance is important in this context?
the two nuances in her post image
as shitty a person as the comment guy is he’s probably right in that most if not all of her friends do want to fuck her
just ready anything about the shit pretty women have to put up with
Presumably the fact that she isn't hanging around his male friends when he is not around? Otherwise they would technically also be "her male friends". Beyond that, he probably has more context to trust his friends.
Apples to apples would be saying they should stop hanging around his female friends, but given how he is implied to act, I would think it unlikely he has any (or at the very least they are unlikely to want to fuck him).
Though frankly, if he is worried about her male friends to the extent that he wants her to stop hanging around them, then the relationship is already on shaky ground. Because he is overly possessive and controlling, and possibly also because she really is giving him reasons to feel insecure. If it's just the former, then her trolling his toxicity is very funny. If it's also the latter, then... well it's still kinda funny, but in a more mean spirited way.
So I'm not sure the nuance between the asks really changes the point of the post.
You see, when some motherfucker you don't know wants to fuck your girl, that's BAD! When it's ya homies, it's chill.
Life lesson
Women are human beings that should have autonomy to do as they please. And they're not "yours" or anybody else's but their own selves. (Women, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)
Women are human beings that should have autonomy to do as they please.
This is 100% true, for anyone (obviously excepting it doesn't infringe on others, such as murder for example), but also its okay for people to have boundaries and for you to compromise within those boundaries, assuming you want to be with the person more than you care about the boundary they have.
Now whether such a thing should be a boundary is another question, but if it's normal to, for example, not want your partner to cheat and have that as a boundary, we can at least agree its okay for boundaries to exist at all within a relationship, and that it isn't necessarily infringing on your autonomy as a person for your partner to have them.
There are however definitely boundaries that should be considered a red flag, and for many people this may be one of them. That's fine, and it's fully your choice to decide whether you accept a boundary, just as some people may only want an open relationship, and so "no 'cheating' of any form" would be a boundary they wouldn't accept, despite being common.
And they're not "yours" or anybody else's but their own selves.
Fully agree.
Good to see some nuance and reflection in a Lemmy comment section :)
Tbh, not all jealousy is misdirected. My ex did a ton of inappropriate-but-not-cheating things with other guys and told me that she was close to cheating on two occasions. Didn't exactly make me feel secure in the relationship and I did tell her that I felt uncomfortable with what she was doing. She ended up actually cheating with one of these guys.
I've been with my wife for ~10 years now, and I never felt any bit of jealousy with her at all, ever. I can just trust her and I do.
So apparently, it's not a me-problem here.
His friends aren't his friends because they want to fuck his girlfriend. They were his friends before he had a girlfriend.
Her guy friends are only friends with her because they want to fuck her.
Those are completely different things in this small window of context.
Sure, but this small window of context also still indicates that "he":
Which sounds pretty toxic imho. Given that, if she wants to respond to toxicity with trolling, it certainly is pretty funny. Which seems to be the main point of the post, and the added nuance doesn't really undermine that.
I don't see it that way at all. He can trust her while not trusting the people she associates with.
I've had this issue with multiple girlfriends (who all ended up with one of the guys I warned them about). It's easy to tell when a guy is only being friendly to try to fuck a girl. Pointing that out isn't controlling in my eyes it's trying to be protective.
I'll grant you he shouldn't have said "stop hanging out with them" but the main point is there if you don't have the knee jerk reaction to the phrasing.
Also I think it has to be stated in life do your own thing. Most relationships, if you don't breed right away are lessons about others, life and yourself. You will learn finding women is realitivly easy but over coming financial strain is a whole bit of fucking awful. You will learn that there is not much love really in this world. As you all argue about mating issues the kings are gaining territory which has nothing to do with mating. This wretched earth.
Didn't you read? If you don't breed right away, you'll learn lessons. Lessons about how easy it is to find women. Very easy. There's plenty of women everywhere. Financial struggles, however, are no fun to overcome. No real love out there. Y'all worry about mating. Kings, meanwhile, expand their reach, and not through breeding.
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