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I don't really dream. It's extremely rare to the point where I'll have a handful in a year and I don't remember them. Waking up with an emotional reaction to an odd dream inspired by life events or entertainment... Then the details slip away from me and I can't even talk to anyone about the experience.

What's it like for you?
Do you enjoy, dislike or analyze your dreams?
Is it really a window to the subconscious for you?

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[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 2 points 1 week ago

It's like having thoughts, but weirder.

[-] bizarroland@fedia.io 2 points 1 week ago

I have incredibly wild and vivid dreams, a handful of times a year.

My most recent one is one that has repeated a handful of times. I am in Portland for some reason and there is a restaurant with a large gravel lot.

I park and I walk up to the restaurant to order a hot dog and Colin Melloy from the Decemberists shows up. His hair is about shoulder length, he's wearing cut off blue jean shorts and a plaid shirt. And he puts on an open air concert out in the gravel lot for free for everyone who just happens to be stopping by this particular hot dog stand.

He played songs from the Crane Wife album, which was pretty cool.

I've had other dreams where I've led choirs of priests and nuns on a musical rampage throughout New York City, singing a song I've never heard before and have not heard since as like this massive musical number.

I've had dreams where I Fight evil villains on spaceships with laser swords only to find out that the villain was my cousin.

I've had dreams where it's the 80s and I am a white guy that wears white suits and sunglasses and I'm rich and I drive a red sports car that's a convertible and I have a lot of money and that dream. I told myself, oh yeah, I've got to make that big purchase in the morning. I better put $50,000 under my bed so it'll be there when I wake up. And then I woke up in the real world and immediately looked under my bed to realize that it was a dream and I've never been more upset to wake up in my life.

I've had dreams where I'm in a dark room being assaulted by demons, being told all the horrible things that there are about me, and I'm trapped to a chair, and like I'm praying to get out of this situation, and the demon laughs at me, and he flicks his finger, and while I'm stuck to the chair, it lifts up onto one leg and starts spinning around and around faster and faster and faster, trying to get my hands to unclass from prayer as the demon laughs in the darkness.

And I've had a recurring dream throughout most of my life, well two recurring dreams throughout most of my life, one of which is where I'm standing in an infinitely large black room on a small little pedestal, and there is a glowing, blue, thin strand of string that serves as a tightrope between here and the end of infinity, and i become aware that I am supposed to walk this tightrope.

Somewhere out beyond the darkness are a tribunal of judges who are watching me and watching my performance, as I take one step onto the string, and then I take the second step, and I realize I have to balance, and I immediately fall, and as I'm falling and I'm plummeting through infinite darkness, I hit the ground, and in real life I wake up, and my entire body convulses and bounces on the bed.

The other one that I have is there is a town, and the town has rolling green fields and sunflowers and wooden fences and white houses and paved roads intersecting through it that wind back and forth and I am driving in an old beat up blue Ford truck with the wooden slats on the truck bed. And, as I drive through the town people stop and wave at me and I wave at them because I am making a delivery and they know me and I know them and I get to drive back and forth in this beautiful, serene, peaceful, perfect town full of happiness.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Wow that's extremely specific

[-] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I used to be like that, unable to dream/remember dreams. Turns out that was because I had nightmares and terrors and stress dreams and my brain simply didn’t want to remember them.

I took a shaman drug (that I won’t mention, because I absolutely do not recommend it for anyone ever, and regret taking it myself) over the course of many months, and it absolutely gave me the permanent ability to dream and recall, and even consistently lucid dream (I don’t recall dreams every day, but at least once a week now). I now have a whole town that acts as a hub to get to all the places I’ve dreamed about more than once. It’s kinda fun.

However, these dreams are massively emotionally taxing. I often encounter my mother (the point of the shaman drug is to interact with dead ancestors), so I’ve relegated her to a middle floor of “my house” so she’s easier to avoid.. those experiences are.. just so overwhelmingly taxing. They do help with some closure stuff even tho I know it’s just my brain making up both sides of things, but it’s draining all the same.

[-] BurgerBaron@piefed.ca 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Had nightmares as a very young child and could dream visually back then. Only when dreaming. I have total Aphantasia, and no sense memory.

I lost the ability to dream visually in my teens, so I don't think it was a trauma response. I even remember my last vivid dream. Roller Coaster Tycoon inspired, so I can't say it was unpleasant. My inability to remember dreams at the time followed soon after.

I managed to lucid dream once in my 20's and very briefly had a stunning visual dream when I concentrated quite hard and it was as if smacking an old CRT TV with faulty connections. The effort maintaining that woke me up pretty quick, but for a minute I was in between huge glacial ice walls in a row boat bobbing in mostly calm deep blue sea water with chunks of ice floating around and clear skies.

That's it though for visual dreaming.

I can remember dreams now because I trained myself to by writing what I can remember down the minute a wake up. Over time I could remember for longer and longer after walking up. This would probably work for OP too if they were interested. Gotta stick to it though.

Psychedelics don't give me any closed eyes hallucinations and I need some pretty absurd doses of others or DMT to even see anything slightly weird open eyes. One of my motivations was to see if I could "unlock" the ability. Didn't work for me :(

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

I live a extremely clean life. Zero drugs. Makes me want to try a induced hallucination...

[-] auraithx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 week ago

I’ve taken every exotic research chemical and psychedelic you can think of. I can confirm hallucinations work the same with aphantasia.

Although I didn’t ‘trip’, which is the delusional state people get into when they take pills/mdma and stay up for a few days. Start talking to plastic bags, on the phone with their hand, etc. might just be me though.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

I wonder what legal options there are. Can't lose my job if I get tested.

[-] auraithx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 1 week ago

Most psychs don’t show up on a panel just find out what the panel tests for.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

I wouldn't know where to get anything safely. Going to look into what's available legally.

[-] auraithx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago

Salvia if you’re brave. World might fold in on you briefly and it’s legal because nobody has fun on it lol. But it is strong as shit and will certain fuck up your perception for a few minutes.

Most of the other legal things are pretty naff and will probably just make you feel a bit sick and fuzzy around the edges (morning glory seeds).

Depending on how strict the laws are in your area there might be some loopholes for exotic psychs but probably not the best entry. Probably best just going looking for some mushrooms, they won’t show on a standard panel.

[-] thenose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Check out the Twin Peaks series. For me that’s the closest I’ve ever seen on screen

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago
[-] thenose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Closest depiction AND sound design to what I dream when I’m dreaming.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098936/

[-] CptInsane0@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I don't dream much either, according to sleep studies. Do you have a sleep disorder and/or smoke weed?

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

I don't do drugs. Even skipping pain meds for a bad back. No real reason I just dislike pills. Drug free for work reasons.

I tend to sleep 4-5 due to overwork. Even if I have 8-9 hours free my internal clock wakes me up at night.

The times I dream are often when I take a 30min-2hr nap.

[-] CptInsane0@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Sounds like you probably aren't getting enough sleep to get into REM very often. 4-5 an hour isn't the healthiest.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Valid. I'm trying to fix it.

[-] CptInsane0@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

You and me both

[-] knight_alva@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

This is my experience exactly! I have never heard of someone else having a similar experience. If you end up going to a sleep specialist or finding any sort of explanation, please DM me about it.

[-] lennybird@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

For those who don't dream much, I'm curious of your surrounding sleep habits and how much you've looked into changing your habits. This could be a big indicator you're not getting into REM sleep, which is not good.

Do any of you drink alcohol, take other prescribed substances (or not prescribed)?

Have you tried eating foods rich in magnesium or taking magnesium supplements?

[-] auraithx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago

I don’t really dream much but my watch says my REM is fine.

Cutting out weed after a stint gives me more dreams than usual, but then cuts back to my baseline once in a blue moon after a while.

Take lots of magnesium, have always been like this. Also have aphantasia though so not much to my dreams to remember.

[-] QuarterSwede@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I’m similar expect I don’t take magnesium. I also have aphantasia. I get 8 hours nightly and wake up refreshed. I do drink 1 cup of coffee every morning. Acetaminophen and/or Ibuprofen as needed which isn’t often and usually only for a tension headache. No other drugs. I drink on occasion but no more than 1-3 beers/week and the rare night bourbon. My wife cans all of our veggies that are cannable so we know they’re fresh. We have pigs raised (working on a cow) and we eat pretty clean food (know how it was raised/grown) as much as possible.

I can’t remember the last time I can remember a dream, it’s been that long. I also have a terrible memory and it takes a a lot of effort to retain events, even something that happened last week, they’re mostly fading memories.

Good news is that means I’m generally very upbeat most of the time. I do not have bipolar disorder or any other mental issue that I know of. I’m very even keeled, so much so that I find Lemmy’s reactions to things happening in the world to be super amplified and irrational. Sometimes it’s warranted, many it’s simply bad for their mental health.

[-] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

It's like getting absorbed into a memory, but the memory gets all jumbled and weird (but you don't notice).

[-] Leonixster@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

I have a personal hypothesis, born out of studies I read a long time ago and haven't kept up with nor really bothered to research more (so take it with a grain of salt), that dreams are two things happening at once:

•Your brain organizing your memories of everything that happened that day, including every thought you had even if it doesn't have a physical event attached to it.

•Your imagination adding as much of a cohesive story as it can to those often times unrelated memories.

I always picture it like still images that change rapidly one after the other, sort of like flipbooks, and then your "conscious" mind trying to keep up with it, finding no logic, and creating a storyline instead.

I've found myself lucid dreaming before, and despite being in control and knowing it's a dream, I'm still asleep, so I end up making dumb choices or playing along with my dream.

The dreams I remember tend to be strangest/goofiest ones or the ones that had some emotional impact on me. However, when I analyze them while awake, I realize that there was a lot of extra "content" that I didn't add or doesn't fit into the dream. Like how somehow the place and the people I'm with change every "scene".

Sometimes I wake up with a phrase resonating inside my head, with that feeling you get in your mouth when tou want to say something. And since I'm bilingual, I've had dreams with both languages happening at once. Hell, I've even had dreams where I'm speaking Japanese "fluently" (i.e. it feels fluent in the dream but I know it must be gibberish, since I don't speak the language).

Sometimes they help me face subconscious anxieties, sometimes they give me solutions to problems I'm having IRL, but more often than not, it's like I'm watching the randomest movie ever. And I do think they're a "window or the subconscious" but not in the sense I think you're asking. Since they're memories and imagination, it is your subconscious that is choosing to focus on specific aspects or the storyline you create. So, analyzing them can help to see what's going inside that blob of fat we call brain.

Tl;dr: they feel like when you're fantasizing/daydreaming but a lot less cohesive, and can be helpful every now and then.

I don't know how dreams happen to people with aphantasia, and I know my explanation would be wildly different for them, but that's how I see dreams.

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 week ago

Everyone dreams, FYI. It's an integral part of sleeping. You just don't remember it.

It's like being awake except more entertaining things are happening. It's a window to the subconscious in the sense I can tell problems from the day appear in them, but not in a Freudian way where they mean things.

[-] ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 1 points 1 week ago

The weirdest part is that you only realize the nonsense after waking up

[-] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 week ago

Funny enough, I've been weirdly lucid in my dreams recently.

[-] ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 2 points 1 week ago

Congratulations! I'd love being able to lucid dream, I imagine it's like being on some kind of drugs but without the risk.

[-] lath@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

There are many kinds of dreams, each with a different sensation.

  • There's vivid nightmares which leave you in a state of panic, often unable to go back to sleep due to a hyper focus on every little sound and touch.
  • There's action dreams which give you an adrenaline rush and a state of random anger.
  • There's emotional dreams which leave you as an empty shell, crying or full of longing for something out of reach.
  • There's horny dreams which leave a puddle in your bed.
  • And there's also happy dreams which fill you up with joy and leave you refreshed and full of love for life.

Of course there's also the forgotten dreams which can be anything, but don't really matter to you because you can't remember having them. But they often leave behind the feeling you're supposed to be doing something, which can drive you crazy during the day.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I got an emotional dream a few months ago. Woke up feeling a wreck and distraught while having no idea why. Very frustrating.

[-] lath@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Yeah, I lose a day being on low energy every time it happens. But the subconscious dreams what it wants, regardless of an attempt to influence. We can give a scenario through our activities before going to sleep, but they tend to stretch out on their own even so.

[-] Codename_goose@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 week ago

I had a dream not too long ago (week maybe) where I didn’t dream about an event or a past, but I dreamt about a project I was working on and I invented something for myself that I can actually build right now if I wanted, but it is meant for me a decade or two in the future.

I’m a wood carver and I’m currently carving a gift for my brother in law. The dream was me fixing a lot of the things I had issue with in the project, and a future idea about my parents that I’ll be writing down and brainstorming until the times comes that I’ll probably want to build it.

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago

That's awesome. This is the kind of thing I feel like I'm missing out on.

[-] Codename_goose@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

Don’t get too excited, this is an extremely rare occurrence for me as it’s only happened once before. But 12 years ago when I worked in a call center doing tech support in the US. It was near constant nightmares about getting calls in the call center, and the beep in the headset. I didn’t get good sleep or enough sleep between shifts. You win some you lose some.

[-] solrize@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 week ago

You dream every night, everyone does. You just don't remember the dreams on waking.

IDK about windows to the subconscious but if I have an interesting or recurring dream, sometimes I try to interpret it, and have gotten some things out of doing that.

Maybe there is some gadget that can detect when you are dreaming. You wouldn't want to have it wake you automatically on a regular basis (disrupting sleep isn't always avoidable, but it isn't good). But you could try it once or twice and see if you remember the dream then.

Dreaming is also called REM (rapid eye movement) sleep, because people's eyeballs jerk around during that sleep phase. Usually the jerking is pretty random. Once during a sleep study, a guy's REM suddenly changed to very rhythmic, repeated side to side movements. That was weird enough that the researcher woke him and asked him what he had been dreaming about. The answer: playing ping pong. The eye movements had tracked the ball going back and forth.

[-] niva@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 1 week ago

Not just everyone, every mamal dreams during every sleep!

[-] Landless2029@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

I wonder what cats dream about...

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