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I hate my stupid mental issues so much, I think people hate me and if my S/O's tone slightly changes, I think he hates me or I did something wrong and then I feel manipulative. I get angry so quickly, IDK what the hell is wrong with me but I hate it. I know I'm just a teen (18) but still. I wish I was normal.

I wish if my S/O didn't respond in a certain way or a dryer way that he hated me, I don't act this way with anyone else, I just think if he stops showing affection (because he always does) that he hates me. I'm so damn manipulative, ugh.

Please be nice and listen. This is a rant, I don't really need advice or to be criticized. I already know I'm messed up mentally.

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[-] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 week ago

I feel you. I have a lot of problems with my mental health as well. I hate the person I am. It's like why can't I just be normal? I have two major personality disorders as well as ADHD and dyslexia.

I hate how fucking stupid I am. I am an actual mentally removed woman with literally no future. I have no qualifications so the only jobs I can get are shitty mcjobs for teens. It brings me so much shame. I deserve to be intelligent and have more possibilities. I see other people who are rich and famous and it makes me so mad because I don't understand why they get all the luck and I don't. I put in so much effort and all I get is some crap job at Burger King and a even crappier car.

[-] RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

not diagnosing, but do you by any chance have bpd or rejection sensitive dysphoria?

[-] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

Possibly BPD, I’m going to ask a professional for sure

[-] RicoPeru3@lemmings.world 1 points 1 week ago

by the way, (same person) i have possible bpd and im a year older than u are

[-] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 week ago

You’re aware of the problem, so that’s a step in the right direction. Imagine what it’s like for those people who just find themselves in trouble all the time, but have no idea what’s going on.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The awareness OP shows and the exact reasoning and thinking they are sharing, along with relating to so many adhd and autism memes is exactly what led me to go see what was wrong with me. The biggest gut punch wasn't being diagnosed with the ADHD or being on the autism spectrum; it was being told I had BPD. Something I had never even heard of before. But after researching it after my diagnosis, it explains nearly everything about my relationships (except with my ex-wife who was straight up abusibe) throughout my entire life. Including how I get along with my own family.

I absolutely hate it. I don't know anyone else with BPD, and most people also have never heard of it. There's no treatment other than just therapy, which I constantly have trouble getting due to health care being bullshit in this country for the non-rich.

[-] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

I have been suspected many times to have BPD. I also have autism. At first, I thought it meant I was toxic and evil due to the stigma that surrounded it. Now I realize how they may actually feel. I myself don’t wanna be this way, and I know neither do they. I’m working on it, though, and I’m pretty self-aware.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 1 week ago

At least you know while you're younger, friend. I didn't suspect I was any different from most people until my mid-30s. I've only known, for sure, something was wrong with me for about 6 years. I really believed I was just lazy, and maybe even sociopathic (due to relationship issues) despite being extremely empathic. At least I know it's not really my fault on a personality level or anything. I just need more help being "normal" than neurotypical folks. Especially when it comes to keeping my mood from changing or getting off my ass to do things I actually have motivation and desire to do because I don't have good executive function. In my entire 40 years, these are the two biggest things I have never found ways of coping with or masking.

[-] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

Thank you so much, I’m so sorry it was so hard for you. I thought I was narcissistic before it dawned on me that borderline could be a thing.

[-] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 1 points 1 week ago

Fair enough, that’s why im trying to work on it, thanks! I hardly ever express anger towards people, I just rant about it on like a journal or something

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