How many times did you and your partner break up before you figured things out? and are you happy now? (lemmy.world)

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[-] SEND_BUTTPLUG_PICS@lemmy.zip 5 points 5 months ago

Zero times. I feel like breaking up and getting back together isn't a healthy way of dealing with relationship problems so when I've broken up with someone it's been final.

[-] jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago

None. If I broke up with someone it was because I didn't want to continue a relationship with them.

[-] AstralPath@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 months ago

Zero and yes. Best friends for 10 years, married now for the last 5.

[-] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 months ago

Zero. Dated for three years, married for seven.

[-] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 1 points 5 months ago

none. I'm single now only because my boyfriend died suddenly from a medical issue that was more serious than he let on. still miss him dearly 💔

[-] mienshao@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Sorry for your loss but that wasn’t the question... My grandma died tragically, sad stuff, but has nothing to do with anything here. Trauma dumping like this is very strange to me. (Downvote me all ya want kiddos.)

[-] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 1 points 5 months ago

I did answer the question tho?? I said "none" meaning zero times

[-] metaphortune@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Oof, that hurts my heart. Virtual hug for you 🫂

[-] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 1 points 5 months ago

thx! 🫂

[-] balderdash9@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

My partner suffered a lot of abuse in previous relationships and my own flaws (some perceived, some very real) triggered her. She "psuedo" broke up with me about three times. We got couples therapy and did a lot of work. It was hard but a few years later we're now happily engaged.

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