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I feel this in my soul. Whenever I do think about it, I don't have time to really commit to a conversation, but them another year passes without reaching out.
If you don’t mind my asking, which app? I’m dealing with the same thing.
I love my friends and family, but I feel too overwhelmed to actually reach out to them. Every conversation feels “too much” even if it’s just general stuff.
It's called Kinly Connect. It’s just a little reminder app for relationships. I add a few contacts and it tells me when I haven’t talked to them in a while, and allows me to add notes/reminders to them. Helps with the out of sight out of mind thing without overwhelming me.
I have the exact same issue that every conversation feels like too much, and it's never the correct time to get into such a conversation. So I'll delay it to do it later and then never get around to it.
I'm still trying to work on this as well. I've found small messages is all it takes, but in my head I used to always feel like I had to do a long catch-up which just put me off. I know a lot of people like us struggle with this so thought I'd share whats worked for me
My dream is a matrix plugin where I can sort memes into boxes for each loved one and it will send them on a set interval (every other day, weekly, etc). I use beeper which is matrix based and has bridges for most major communication apps so just having that one extra plugin I could really keep up a solid "thinking of you" vibe without inundating people with an overwhelming quantity.
I always keep thinking: "A phone works both ways."
If I'm not reaching out, then what stops them from doing so? Oh, right...
this post was submitted on 08 Jan 2026
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