These apps seem to encourage ‘transactional’ behaviour. Less so in my experience irl. Best formula someone gave me was: get involved with something you enjoy, a club or activity. Meet people through this. Get to know them with the pressure off (as you’re enjoying whatever the activity is). Meet people through activities to form proper relationships, was his take.

I’d love to know if this has actually worked for someone.

Dating apps incentivize bad behavior and the fuckers who run the dating apps do nothing about it.

I once heard a woman say that dating apps basically turned dating into shopping. To be clear, she was criticizing the effect that the apps have had on dating and society. It takes something that should be deeply personal and basically commercializes it to an experience no deeper than choosing your next purse, and if that purse has issues with being treated like stuff, well, guess I don't need that purse. Ofc, I'm a dude, and was lucky enough to avoid all this bullshit, so I can't speak from personal experience.

Never been ghosted, but I was on Tinder for 4 years (no, I didn't swipe every day) before finally finding someone. Went on like a date a year because most conversations just fizzled out before even meeting IRL and I'm not the most attractive physically, which kinda plays a role in the total amount of matches. I might have had about one a week on average.

3 months in and so far this is the most amazing woman I've ever dated and I hope this is not a temporary feeling, because rn I feel like she's an absolute keeper and my friends seem to agree too.

Point being: keep your options open, have accounts on popular dating apps just in case you accidentally swipe right on your soulmate. But don't hope for anything because you'll be disappointed. It's all random chance and your chances are low so things take time.

Should’ve unmatched her or ghosted the second she canceled the first date. She laughed at anon because he has no self respect or awareness; she saw him still thinking he isn’t just a number after she clearly blew him off twice in his face.

Ahh yes.... This is relatable. Breaks are necessary with the apps before you go completely mad. Shitty people/behaviour is a part of living life, unfortunately.

My best friend happened to meet the woman he would marry as his first date on whatever app he used, so now he thinks its the only way to go for dating. He can't seem to understand either that I'd rather be single than go through the effort of meeting strangers through the internet, probably because he's the person that HAD to be in a relationship at all times. I prefer to meet people organically, its worked well for me in the past and I don't have the pressure of presenting the "best" version of myself at all times to try to click with someone or whatever.

Apps have a weird power structure. They make anyone feel like a beggar. Social hobbies are a better way to meet people if you live in a reasonably populous area. I personally have interesting accessories to give people an in to a conversation that traditionally works fairly well when at an event or in public. Homemade rings, and interesting watch, inordinary boots, a cool lighter, a fountain pen, antique thrifted jackets, necklaces made of fossils, anything stand out that someone can comment on if they take an interest in you starts a conversation and doesn't require begging the upper hand for attention like dating apps do.

Just use Feeld, bro.

None of that "I'm just a girl looking to get rammed, but because I'm afraid people will call me a slut, my profile says random bullshit about like stars and wanting a relationship - teehee". Women and guys on their are direct af. It's like dating gay men (finally). "DTF?", "Looking for a one night stand", "Looking for a threesome with my partner", "Only dating couples for a foursome", "Just want to watch my boyfriend get pegged by a hot girl/dude", etc.

Tinder was supposed to be a hookup app, but Feeld is just so much better.

Of course it can be used for finding relationships too, but at least people are clear about that. Much less of the "pretending to look for a relationship because I don't want people to think badly of me".

Don't use dating apps. Go and meet new people irl, like through friends and stuff. If you don't have friends, go join a hobby group or whatever. Most people on dating apps are fucking insufferable and borderline insane.

So glad i met my wife before all this shit.

Yeah, I remember having similar experiences with online/app dating and it was exhausting to find a connection, let alone actually going and meeting them in person. I got lucky and went on a date with someone who I actually was able to click with and is currently my girlfriend, but thinking about it now, it seemed almost impossible

We're all sociopaths now.

A lot of these apps have fake women on them to boost sales of the app, one wonders if this is an example. Odd that he stuck around after the first rejection.

Why is it so new? And where is the funny part and anons making fun of OOP?

We may have different experiences, but the result is the same for me.