Honestly? The last few years have been like a slow motion Trainwreck. My wife developed serious chronic health issues a few years ago and I've been unemployed for almost a year and a half. We've gone from being in a very good financial position to being virtually bankrupt. It has not been a good time.
I've gone through very similar experiences, I actually never pulled out and ended up basically losing everything. Started over a few years back.
I mean, it all fucking sucks but I think after actually facing the worst-cases and living through it, you feel far less anxious about a lot of the smaller stuff.
But if I could recommend one thing, it would be consider looking into therapy ahead of time and making time for it. Being a caregiver and having the full responsibility on your shoulders to make things work is more than traumatic, it can destroy you. PTSD is a constant presence in my life and it doesn't work like media portrays it, it's just a constant, gnawing anxiety and despair that doesn't go away even when things are fine. Your brain keeps looking for reasons for the feelings and throws you all kinds of narratives that you have to manually address and squash down every day or it will spiral in your mind and get worse and worse. Not fun. Would not recommend.
0/10 - Cancer surgery in 11 days.
Don't know if it helps, but having had cancer, it's not the worst thing out there.
I'd rank years of dialysis higher, for example.
Death of a loved one too, easily.
With the cancer, you either know you'll die fast and even get an estimate. But other stuff just slowly kills you and robs you of years of opportunity you can never get back, and you don't know if you might die next month, next week, or next year.
Getting a chance to know you're dying is a luxury, by few realize it. Heck even the foresight of it the possibility is. But the long term stuff? The slow, unsure deaths? That's... Well, like I said, I don't know if it helps, but I'll say it could be much, much, much worse. Consider you'll have time to prepare at least. It's not much, it's still a shit situation. Don't know if you had the chemo yet and yeah, that's pretty shit. But maybe realizing you have preparation time and a pretty black and white outcome can raise that 0 to a 1 or 2.
Chemo depends on the results of the surgery. Right now, it's stage 2 which is resolved with surgery. If it gets into the lymph nodes, that bumps it to stage 3 and requires chemo.
So they pull the entire sigmoid colon and the related lymph nodes and send it all off for biopsy.
I see the clippy
O7 hope all goes well because we can't afford to lose soldiers
Hopefully it all goes well! How would you rate it if it's a successful procedure and you recover completely ?
Hard to say, recovery is going to be a bitch because, get this... 12 days after my diagnosis, 1 day before the CT Scan and 2 days before meeting the surgeon, my wife felt a numbness and tingling in her legs, tried to stand up and fell to the floor.
An infection she had been fighting in her foot moved to her spine and tried to paralyze her(!) She had emergency surgery on her spjne that night, a lower leg amputation a few days later, and has now been in the hospital... (checks math) 14 days.
So there's a real possibility we'll both be hospitalized at the same time or, best case, in surgical recovery at the same time. She can't come home until she completes rehab for the nerve damage and amputation.
Oh man, what can I even say. What a difficult situation to be in, I feel for you both. Hopefully your wife and you recover well and quickly. Damn. 😔🙏
I have a job that gets me by. I'm not in a terrible financial place, but I'm not where I want to be. The stress from financial stuff is less than in the past. I have great kids. I have cats that love to piss me off as much as they love me. Sometimes I'm lonely when it's just me and the cats. 7 out of 10. C sounds about right.
Happiness isn't an emotion I feel all that often, but I'm hyper-aware of how much worse things could be. Objectively, everything's fine - and aside from a recent setback, the overall direction seems to be upward.
Can only wish I had someone to share it with.
-10
Depressed, 3/10.
Idk how to be independent so I'm stuck with my family of origin.
Anxious all the time, hearing Cantonese being spoken triggers me.
One thing I do appreciate is somehow the universe let me out of China, so now at least I can watch Youtube videos in depression, can't imagine having to live behind the firewall. I personally didn't even have internet when I was in China.
Could be worse so... eh...
FUCK TRUMP FUCK XI FUCK PUTIN
DOWN WITH THE CCP
DEATH TO XI JINPING
Lol that feels so good, this would've been illegal to say in China xD
My mom used to be 70% love 30% abuse, now its like 20% love 80% abuse. My older brother acts so threatening.
Seriously, if I had an older sister instead, maybe it would be more peaceful. I feel like males are just so aggressive, and I'm saying this as a dude...
well I mean my mom is also aggressive so... eh... idk honestly.
2/10 now that I have talk about it and it make me more depressed and I just feel like my soul melted into a puddle of depression again.
Don't be sad, you're based as fuck. You already told us a bunch about yourself and from all that you really couldn't be very happy right now.
If it helps in any way, I think you're making the most out of the things that improve your mood, because after all the shit that went on in your life, I'd score a 0/10 if I were you.
Probably 5/10
Good job, shit love life, decent family life, good friends, the rest of the world is fucked to no end
Well, I have a job, a roof over my head, food in my fridge, and for the first time in my entire life I've the ability to actually start doing hobbies and figure out what I actually like and who I am and I'm not being entirely held back by finances or people, although I'm still in a very financially tight spot. So I'm blessed for that.
On the other hand, my first waking thought every day is how lonely I am, it's always the thing that keeps me awake, and I can't sleep more than an hour or so at a time without waking up having panic attacks because I'm so miserable and alone. It's not even about being in a relationship, I don't even have a single friend anymore that I can just send a text to or talk to about something funny that happened in my day or anything. I'm so fucking lonely. I just want someone who will tell me about their day and share memes with me or something and make me feel like I'm not alone on this damned earth.
I’d say 8/10.
No real issues honestly, just chilling after graduating high school and soon getting into uni. Been eating a lot better too, since I’ve got a ton of time to experiment with easy and dirt cheap breakfasts mainly which are barely processed. Ive also been able to experiment with my massive fixation on technology, although I don’t have many more computers I can experiment with unless I quietly snatch a surface pro 4 from the storage room or smth.
What bugs me however, is how family members don't really care when dozens of noises are occurring at once, like my dad with the tv on while also watching tiktoks, and that it seems nobody else but I get stressed and overstimulated from it. Due to this (and dozens of other things), I've suspected I’m autistic for like a year now, and I’ve been going good with cataloguing the reasons and doing official tests on it.
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