It sounds like he thinks of you more as a casual friend that he hangs with sometimes. What does your gf think of this?
I'm gonna go on a limb and say you can't handle polyamory yet. I couldn't either. You need to be so confident (or oblivious) that you don't get jealous. That's really hard for some people.
If it were me, I'd tap out. Maybe find someone who would dote only on me because that's what I need in a relationship.
But YMMV. I'm just a random on the Internet.
He loves or better word "infatuated" with Alex. End it now before it causes more pain in the long run. You'll find someone who loves you and you won't question it.
A good quote to young lovers is "sometimes we accept the love we think we deserve."
You deserve better. Make decisions that make you happy. The sooner you learn that, the better. No one else can make those decisions for your happiness but you.
Thank you. Do you think he is infatuated with me too by the sounds of it? Hes nice to me idk
No. Sounds like he's "nice" so he doesn't have the guts to let you go. He wants his cake and eat it too.
Thank you so much :) I will talk to him about this, I’ve been trying to get him to let me spend time with him
Be careful. He'll listen to your demands to keep you there longer. It's a power trip. But we all have to learn on our own. Best to you.
It sounds like he views Alex as his main partner, and you're his backup.
Most likely yeah
I'm sorry. If the relationship he's offering isn't enough for you, there's nothing wrong with telling him that it isn't working for you and ending it. It isn't selfish or wrong of you to want more. I think, at bare minimum, anyone you date should be genuinely interested in you and make time for you.
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