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[-] Shadow@lemmy.ca 98 points 10 months ago

Celebrate without buying gifts.

Why do you need to spend money to celebrate? Spend your time with people instead.

[-] Boozilla@lemmy.world 25 points 10 months ago

I 100% agree with this. Unfortunately it's also one of those things that a lot of people say but don't really mean. Like when they say it's OK for men to cry.

[-] otp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 months ago

It's definitely OK for men to cry. Or, it's equally not okay for a woman to cry than a man. Lol

[-] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago

I totally cry.

I also tend to give gifts when I see something a friend would swoon over, and giving gifts for Christmas is weird.

I also don't really care about my masculinity or if I'm seen as sufficiently manly.

[-] kpaniz@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago

Same thought. I just said to people close to me that I don't want gifts neither for christmas nor for my birthday and I'll never want them. As a kid it makes sense, getting something you really want from someone else because you don't really have a serious job or money at all so it's one of the few chances to get something. Now if I want something I just buy it, otherwise I just don't want it. And if I can't buy it because it's expensive why would I want someone else to spend that kind of money? Plus all that thinking about what would be a good gift. And if it's about "showing you care about me" then really, just say merry christmas or happy birthday.

[-] Lifecoach5000@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

Everyone close to me knows I ain’t a holiday gift giver. I like giving surprises to people on the fly when they don’t expect it.

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 months ago

Personally I like giving other people gifts. It's part of the fun. Last year I got my brother a drone and he got me a thrifted, pit-stained t-shirt for a band I don't listen to that much. I don't care, I just like to give other people cool gifts!

[-] neptune@dmv.social 1 points 10 months ago

Gifts can be made or affordable

[-] Aermis@lemmy.world 37 points 10 months ago

People that celebrate Christmas and have not bought gifts yet do not celebrate Christmas with gifts, or at the very least are not important for the celebration.

[-] Its_Always_420@lemmy.world 32 points 10 months ago

Steam games bought tomorrow morning

[-] Sprucie@feddit.uk 8 points 10 months ago

Absolute life saver for the chronic procrastinators among us.

[-] swordsmanluke@programming.dev 25 points 10 months ago

I know a guy who grew up occasionally homeless. He has ended up as a well paid tech manager and his approach is that his family can usually just afford the things they want, so instead of buying stress gifts the last month of each year, his family picks a charitable cause to donate time and money to instead.

They've bought goats for third world families; paid for education, transportation and home construction; fed hungry and clothed the naked.

He's a cool guy.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 20 points 10 months ago

I'm buying myself a new weighted blanket 🥳

[-] zigmus64@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago

Treat ‘yo self!

[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 2 points 10 months ago

What a coincidence, I'm buying myself a blanketed weight!

[-] Neil@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago

My wife got me one of those this year. Really helping me through my covid. Oh yeah, I also have covid on Christmas day, lol. Fun stuff.

[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

I got COVID on Christmas two years ago. You got this!

[-] TurboDiesel@lemmy.world 18 points 10 months ago

A few years ago, I had ordered a bunch of gifts for my family to be delivered to my mother's house shortly before Christmas. The morning my flight was supposed to leave, I got an email from Amazon saying my packages were delayed until like mid-January. Given that I needed to be on a plane in a couple of hours, and it was like 3 days before Christmas Day, I ended up just printing off pictures of the stuff I bought and giving everybody a card with them in it. We had a pretty good laugh about it.

[-] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 17 points 10 months ago

Make plans after Christmas day and buy presents on boxing day on discount is what I'd do tbh.

[-] Darkncoldbard@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

What the hell is boxing day??

[-] Breakyfix@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 10 months ago

the day after christmas. not entirely sure where the name comes from or what it means tbh

[-] Darkncoldbard@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

I'm gonna start saying "happy boxing day!" To everyone I come across on the 26th lol

[-] dutchkimble@lemy.lol 3 points 10 months ago

Fun fact: it got known as boxing day because of all the Christmas gifts given and opened on Christmas day all around the world, leading to the most number of empty boxes the next day.

[-] Darkncoldbard@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

That kind of makes sense? Wouldn't box day make a bit more sense? Boxing day sounds like everyone puts on some boxing gloves and just goes at it

[-] Brekky@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

I heard that's a recent back story and not the true origin, which is still unknown

[-] bionicjoey@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

I always heard it was called boxing day because it's the day you start boxing up all of your holiday decorations (which isn't even true since most families keep the tree and stuff out for a few days after.

[-] EurekaStockade@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

It's a thing in Commonwealth countries. The origin is not really clear but these days it represents discount shopping and a big cricket match

[-] lazylion_ca@lemmy.ca 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Count my money while browsing boxing day sales and chuckling because I don't actually need anything.

[-] joystick@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

Saw people buying gifts at the grocery store this morning. Like cheap perfume gift bundles and stuff like that.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

Sometimes you find out late that someone is going to give you something. And sometimes you procrastinate.

[-] ElderWendigo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago

Could be stocking stuffers. White elephant party maybe. Something for the surprise holiday guest so they feel included and welcomed.

[-] tubbadu@lemmy.kde.social 8 points 10 months ago

Improvise. Adapt. Overcome.

[-] trackcharlie@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I haven't had money for holiday presents in over a decade, I don't plan to waste money on it now. Majority of "presents" end up in the landfill or as returns, to be sent to the landfill anyway, so mindless consumerism wins again.

If I give someone something it'll be cash toward whatever they intended to buy anyway.

[-] TheInsane42@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Not 'celebrating' Christmas here.

Yesterday we had my wife's parents over for diner, they areived at noon and left 4h later so the pets could be fed. Was fun to chat and have the rest of the day off. My sisters come tomorrow with kids. Haven't had them around to visit for over a decade. We usually go to them, as some have pet allergies and we have loads of pets. Alas, I'm unable to leave town for a few months, so we haven't seen them for a few months now, so they decided to drop by. No decoration apart from an paper 'table cloth' and some chrismas cookies for the kids to decorate.

When you normally see each other almost every month, why go trough all stress for the holiday season just because everybody celebrates a nice story. (is tricked into spending loads due to 'tradition') We had a not so simple meal with my inlaws (my wife liked to cook something special) and tomorrow it's soup with sandwitches and pizza (the kids would want notuing fancy anyway and it's easy for a big group).

No gifts, apart from each others company this year, although normaly we just dig inmfor the weeks and hide (with december being the only month in the year without birthdays). We already get to stressed about all the stress in/around the grocery that's almost in our back yard.

[-] em2@lemmy.ml 3 points 10 months ago

I will buy them and send them late, like I usually do.

[-] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 10 months ago

No gifts, just a card. And that still caught her off-guard, because she knows I'm opposed to materialism (for the sake of materialism; I still buy nice things for the things I need).

[-] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 1 points 10 months ago

Wait on the gifts I'm getting!

[-] deegeese@sopuli.xyz 1 points 10 months ago

I let my wife handle all the gifts, but I put up the tree and make all the food.

[-] shasta@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

This is why e-giftcards exist

[-] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

give me your money instead

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