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[-] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 141 points 1 year ago

Yeah, this can be a generational cultural difference.

I mourned the death of my grandfather three separate times when my mother texted me "please call". Each time when I called back I learned something different:

  1. We had to change our lunch plans.
  2. There was an alarming local news article about driving conditions.
  3. My grandfather had died.
[-] Steeve@lemmy.ca 42 points 1 year ago

If these were all in the same day that's quite the series of events

[-] MajorHavoc@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Lol. Different days. But at least I got to get through a few of the stages of grief early.

[-] Urbanfox@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago

The last time my dad called was 16 years ago when my mum was bleeding out after surgery and we didn't know if she was going to make it.

Other than that, it's WhatsApp messages, and they're usually about the dog.

I would 100% think someone had died if my dad called.

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[-] Prethoryn@lemmy.world 69 points 1 year ago
[-] orangeboats@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

This is probably family dependent. My family is similar to OP's, we usually text if we want to have casual conversations. Voice calls are limited to serious topics only... unless I text them "hey, let's have a call" or something like that first.

[-] RagingNerdoholic@lemmy.ca 53 points 1 year ago

Are zoomers really like this?

[-] Ataraxia@lemm.ee 28 points 1 year ago

I'm 40. I don't even answer the phone if it rings. If it's important they can leave a message.

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[-] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 1 year ago

Sorry if I don't think minor topics are worthy of the immediate attention needed for a phone call?

Phone calls are reserved for emergencies. Otherwise you're just demanding the instant attention of someone for nothing.

[-] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago

Not demanding, asking. Declining a call is always an option.

[-] magikmw@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago

I like to compare calling to someone knocking on your door incessantly for several seconds.

You can ignore it or decline to answer. It's still annoying af.

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[-] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Phone calls aren't reserved for anything. They're just phone calls. I'm a huge introvert but it's like in one particular way millions of people decided to try and be the most annoying introvert possible

[-] mercury@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 year ago

I don't think all zoomers are, but a LOT of the people I know are TERRIFIED of phone calls. I was like that too, before I started applying for jobs and had to make like 3 calls a week.

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[-] ThatWeirdGuy1001@sh.itjust.works 51 points 1 year ago

This is something that idk if I'll ever get used to about lemmy

It's a meme. It's a joke. It's deliberately blown out of proportion.

Y'all need to calm tf down.

[-] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 46 points 1 year ago

so.. instead of discussing this... we should what? Post lol in all our coments?

[-] hazeebabee@slrpnk.net 24 points 1 year ago

Lol i kinda enjoy the weirdly serious discussions about shitposts. Its both absurd and oddly insightful at times.

Lemmys will follow any topic over the edge of a cliff :P

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[-] snor10@lemm.ee 45 points 1 year ago

???

Why would she react like that to a phonecall?

[-] Royal_Bitch_Pudding@lemmy.world 96 points 1 year ago

Young people don't call unless it's serious business.

Why she reacted like that while also knowing her dad still calls people? No idea

[-] WaltJRimmer@lemmy.world 40 points 1 year ago

Not just young people. I've seen this kind of behavior in surprisingly old people such as Gen X and even Baby Boomers, but I've seen it in a LOT of millennials, the youngest of whom are now in their early thirties and the oldest are in their forties.

[-] Psyduck_world@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago

Not just young people. I am 48, and if I get a call from my mom I would’ve thought something happened to my dad.

[-] IonAddis@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago

Yep. Basically any generation that grew up with texting and chat kinda leans this way... so millennials and younger. But also some gen x.

Phone calls are for things that can't wait and need the other person to drop what they're doing, and things urgent like that tend to be medical or work stuff. Or things time sensitive in another way.

Demanding the other person stop what they're doing to attend to you immediately is considered kinda rude for minor topics when such an easy and less pushy alternative is available.

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[-] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 50 points 1 year ago

Because phonecalls are reserved for when you immediately with no delay need someone.

Asking about a show is not one of those cases.

[-] curiousaur@reddthat.com 41 points 1 year ago

Or just want to talk to someone? Why are we simultaneously normalizing anti-social behavior and wondering why the young people are so unhappy?

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 year ago

Why not text 'wanna talk sometime'? A call demands an immediate response, so reserve it for things that demand immediate responses.

[-] LaurelRerun@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago

No it doesn't. Just don't pick up the phone. If it's important they'll text you to pick up the phone. There's a reason the terms "phone tag" and "screening calls" exist.

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 year ago

But you don't know the relative importance of what they're telling vs what you're doing. A text gives more information than just seeing your receiving a call.

[-] Amazed@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

That’s why people leave voicemails… you leave a verbal note of why you’re calling. And if the receiver prefers to read a text about it, several services transcribe voicemails automatically good enough to get the general gist. Or they can listen to them.

The point is that people usually don’t set out to ruin your day or misbehave, and you cannot control other people’s experience, expectations and preferences, only your own. So it’s on you to know yourself well enough to manage your boundaries appropriately with technology/tools, and possibly communication, and not to blame other people for “missteps”. When what they are doing is likely perfectly within the realm of reason to them.

Especially if they have a disability and calls are easier for them. If you have the disability, you can communicate your preferences but don’t expect people to know immediately. Set up your tech accordingly to communicate your needs. And acclimate where you can.

If things “escalate”.. well… it’s likely your fault. We always need to look at our part first.

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[-] EfreetSK@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

In our family it looks exactly like this, that's why I found it very funny :)

We usually just chat (or videochat) and when f.e. dad randomly calls me then it's some serious business. And for that brief moment my mind jumps to most catastrophic scenarios why he could be calling me. And I think it goes both ways because when I call dad the first question usually is "Hi, did something happen?"

[-] Wollang@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 year ago

I react this way when my mom calls because she never calls me and the one time she did, it was because my grandmother died.

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[-] Chainweasel@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

Crippling socal anxiety

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[-] adespoton@lemmy.ca 27 points 1 year ago

This comic strip is flawed… nobody who would react that way to a phone call would have their phone out of silent mode.

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[-] AnanasMarko@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

To me it feels texting takes longer. Call someone up and it's done in less than a minute. Why write some long ass message?

Most folks don't even bother writing back... Message seen? Best forget about it.

Edit: typo

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[-] Rin@lemm.ee 26 points 1 year ago

I think this is a skill issue

[-] fne8w2ah@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago

So many people (myself included) text as the default method of phone communication.

[-] MeanEYE@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

In some cases it's more practical as you can keep multitasking. Especially for work I like when people send me emails or chat messages instead of holding meetings or barging into office, even worse video calls.

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[-] Alenalda@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I have to call people for work to let them know when I'll arrive to provide the service. 3/4 of the time nobody answers, of those half either don't have vm setup or it is full and won't take an messages. The only people who do pick up are the elderly.

[-] dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago

Man, I'd kill to receive a phone call from my family. Or a text. Or an email. Or a letter.

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