I cant tell the difference.

Here in Kansas City we have plenty of IPA. But there are a bunch of breweries and they all have plenty of non ipa varieties.

My local liquor stores carry Killian's Irish Red Ale and I swear by it. It's hearty with a subtle oaty sweetness.

Otherwise maybe look for Sam Adams? Or is that only a Massachusetts thing?

Seems like OP only goes to shitty bars that only have bud light and lagunitas IPA on tab. Get a Hop Passport and explore the local scene https://www.hoppassport.com/ (assuming you are in the US)

Wrong. IPAs are delicious and you're not allowed to leave the dinner table until you finish yours.