My wife and I both like anime content, but yeah, the high school stuff has been making me uncomfortable on some level for quite a while to the point where I don't talk about anything anime related with people unless I KNOW their into it already.
I really want more good stories told with older characters. For romance stuff there's a lot of good office worker stuff like Sweat and Soap, Wotakoi. Action stuff is getting away from teenagers more with Kaiju no. 8 and Sakamoto days. But yeah, so much stuff is written for and therefore about teenagers and kids and it's making us older weebs feel left out and creepy IMO... I get that "coming of age" is an important universal theme but still