Polyamory is WRONG! You people disgust me!
Mixing Latin and Greek words like that! Either call it multiamory or polyphilia!
The nerve of some people!
This is why I don't watch television.
How do you feel about multiphilia? ;-)
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I never noticed
swing on by for a chat
I see you.
Interesting topic. Any link to share?
!polyamory@kbin.run /c/polyamory@kbin.run
Delighted to see another Mbin magazine for once. It is the Fediverse, and lately it's been feeling like the Lemmyverse. Hope this gets users.
TY! I'm still learning the syntax.
I hope you're ready for a deluge of ignorant comments. And some malicious ones.
I'm going quickly enumerate some of the more common responses.
"I knew a poly couple and they broke up!" -> we've all known many monogamous relationships that ended, too. Though it is true that going from a conventional, deeply entangled, monogamous relationship to something else is challenging. Read about the missing step if you're interested. Monogamous people would also benefit.
"It's bad for the kids!" -> the poly people I know who have kids, the kids are doing great. They have more adults in their lives that are invested in them.
"It's just cheating!" -> cheating is when you break agreed upon rules. If the rules don't include "only have sex with one person", then it's not cheating to do otherwise.
"It's just about sex!" -> sometimes! Sometimes monogamous relationships are just about sex. Sometimes they're not.
"I'm too jealous for that!" -> most people experience jealousy. What's important is how you deal with it. If you're the kind of person who has a freak out and breaks into your partner's phone because he smiled at the waitress, that's not ok and not something to be proud of. You can and should work on emotional regulation.
"You poly people think you're better than everyone!" -> some people might. But that's true for any subcategory of people. Vegans. Linux users. City dwellers. Country dwellers. I will say that living unexamined choices I think is the worse choice. If monogamy is something you really thought about and chose, fine, good for you. But if you're just doing it because that's expected and never gave it a thought? Less impressed. The same for eating meat or using windows.
Ok, I think that's all the highlights.
We've already had "it's just about sex". And anyone that's been around has heard all the rest, and more. Let's see how it rolls, without expectations, fearless. And please, when your predictions come to fruition, come help out. It's all about education, and conversation. :-)
!polyamory@kbin.run is the link you want to put. Otherwise it just links to !polyamory on the user's home instance.
I'm confused, both those resolve to the same link, on my screen.
Because your home instance is kbin.run where the community is! Try these. !programming and !programming@programming.dev
I see what you mean. And I corrected the link above to what I think is correct. Can you, would you please check me on that? I'm just learning how this all works. Seems there's some federation issues for some users.
No, you need to literally put !polyamory@kbin.run instead of just !polyamory. It's like dialing someone's phone number who lives in a different country and not including the country code when you don't include an instance.
Hmm, do you realize when I copy each of those "!polyamory" (which appear as blue links) above, in your message, and then paste them next to each other in the text editor, that both of them are the same. LIke this: https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory
which further confuses me as to what you are suggesting, as I think I've done what you suggested.
[!polyamory@kbin.run](/c/polyamory@kbin.run) not !polyamory. It's like trying to email "John". John at what? You're on kbin.run so it goes to [!polyamory@kbin.run](/c/polyamory@kbin.run) like you expect. When I click on !polyamory it tries to go to [!polyamory@programming.dev](/c/polyamory@programming.dev) because my instance is programming.dev.
Ok, thank you, it appears the fog of ignorance has been dissipated by your brilliance. I apologize for being so dense. This should work a whole lot better.
It's okay. It's sort of a complicated thing to explain. I was trying to not be overly technical but it's sort of difficult to explain otherwise. ❤️ I subscribed, by the way. I'm excited to interact!
Thanks friend, you did well by me. Yeah, me too. The @polyamory@lemmy.world group seems good as well. (LoL, hey, it worked!!) It's been my observation that more people all the time are looking for relationship options that fit them better than the standard monogamy model. I used to think that poly was just one of those odd things about me that not everyone shares. And I got ok with that. But the percentage of false paternity speaks to the fact that people want to cheat reproductively or otherwise. Cheating sounds way too dangerous to oneself and one's partners, with STIs, and even with hurt feelings. I prefer to talk about things, so everyone knows what's going on, and each can decide how they want to play.
Open relationships? Isn't that just a group chat 💀
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