You don't sound like an adult.

Are you being held prisoner by your family? Why is your sister taking care of you? Why is she watching you with cameras?

There might be a lot of context that explains these things. But just reading your post it sounds like you need counsel or professional help. Take care.

There's no legal reason you can't do whatever you want.

There's also no legal reason for your mom and sister to let you keep living there.

The worst-case scenario is that your mother kicks you out of the house. Which, in my opinion, wouldn't be a bad thing for you if they do this because they're upset you went on a date.

You only live once

This seems like something you all should be discussing in family therapy.

Could we have the whole context please?

Why are you, a 25-year old, without driving licence in a car dependant zone? What do you do as a job? Do you have friends? Do you have hobby where you meet people?

You sound like a prisonner at your mother’s house and your date sounds like a little issue compared to the everything else (like loneliness, no freedom to go where you please, maybe no occupation?, vulnerability to your family ….)

Do you ever leave the house? Like to go to work or the library or to hang out with friends? Just leave as if you're doing one of those things, and then meet your date somewhere.

If you never leave the house, that is something you might consider addressing before you start dating. There can be lots of reasons to leave the house that don't involve an unwitting stranger getting pulled into your rather unique family situation.

Going through OPs past posts, it's interesting....

I hope you find the help ya need.

I'm guessing you don't have a car. Is there somewhere nearby you could walk to or bicycle to, for someone to meet you and pick you up? Then you would only be on camera leaving the house, not breaking any house rules. This isn't about law, this is about your relationship with your mother. You can do what you want, but different actions may have different results in your family dynamics.

How old are you? You’re an adult, but your sister is taking care of you, and you’re worried about your mum finding out you’ve been on a date? What?

What is this? There is some information missing here to make it make sense. Are you part of a restrictive cult? Are you actually 15yo? There must be something else going on here!

You seem to be very intentionally dodging the question everybody in this discussion has been asking: Why are you, an adult, being taken care of by a family member?

Aside from very literally answering the question by saying, "Well my sister is taking care of me because Mom is gone," you haven't addressed the subtext of that question: why do you need taking care of at all? Do you have some form of condition that requires you to have a caregiver as an adult?

Please make careful note of sentences I have written that end in question marks ("?")—those answers are important.

this reads like a post written by a paranoid sovcit

Your rights as an adult are that you now get to make your own rules and everyone else has to respect them. But the flipside of that is that you also have to respect everyone else's rules, especially those of a homeowner.

That homeowner might have rules about whether or not you can wear shoes inside, or whether you can smoke inside, etc. When you own your own place you get to make rules like this yourself, and you will be within your rights to expect your visitors, tenants and offspring to abide by them.

If for example you make a rule that says "Don't tell strangers my address" then you would be right to expect your children to abide by that rule.

This is your mom's rule and you have to abide by it. Tell your dates to pick you up and drop you off somewhere nearby without giving away your home address, and when you want to invite them home you need your mom's agreement first, because it's her house and her rules.

BTW the "I want it my way!" attitude is that of a kid not an adult. Grown-ups make agreements and stick to them. If you want different rules you can try to negotiate with her, but you have to accept if she won't change them. There are good reasons for not letting unknown people know your address.

Others have already addressed the main points of your post, but I would just like to add:

Please be very certain that the person you are giving your address to is someone you can trust. Do you already know them in real life, or did you meet them online?

You're probably going to have to have a chat with your mum about this because if there's not a good specific reason for her concern, then it would be helpful to you if she could relax on this issue because it's impinging on your ability to enjoy your life as an adult. She should care about that and if she doesn't that tells you something. Ideally you could avoid the whole issue by meeting your date somewhere other than your house, although it will be awkward if you are unable to return home with them at any stage. Can your sister or any of your friends give you a ride to meet your date elsewhere?

A point of confusion I have from your post is whether you're asking about your rights to date people, or just your rights to have them pick you up from the house. As far as dating people is concerned, you say you're 25, you can do what you want neither your Mum nor your sister have any choice about it. You do not have to justify this or use your recent birthday as an excuse for anything because there's nothing to excuse. Whether you want to date people is up to you and you alone.

If your Mum specifically requested that you not bring your date to the house it would be rude to just ignore her, particularly if she has some special reason to be extra careful, but it's also a very strange request for her to make of her 25 year old adult-child so you'll definitely need her to give a pretty good explanation why you shouldn't do this. Similarly, it's a very strange situation to be in that you're worried about your sister watching camera footage of you as some kind of evidence of wrong doing, why is she in a position to do that and why would she want to? How old is she? Such behaviour is bizarre and controlling.

A lot of the details of your post sound like you've been living in strange and possibly abusive circumstances where your mother and sister are putting a lot of effort in to monitoring and controlling you, which they do not any rights to do. In most places I know of, a person is legally an "adult" at 18 years of age, how long have they been doing this to you? Were you allowed friends and relationship in school? What about afterwards at work or university?

Do you want to continue living with your mother? It might be a good idea to start gaining some more independence in your life so you can safely choose to live in a different arrangement if you want to. No offence, but the way you write does sound strangely young and naive for a 25 year old, especially the idea that you need to have either your mother or your sister around to look after you. Do you have friends that know about your living arrangements? Do you know many people outside of your house? If you tried to make friends and spend time with them, is that something your mother would try to stop you doing? It sounds like you're very isolated and your Mum is keeping it that way on purpose. Unless there's some very specific context that can explain all these details, then it sounds like there's something very wrong about how your family is treating you.

Mr. F!

TL;DR You are almost certainly a tenant and have the rights of a tenant, but common sense says you should respect your mom's wishes and not give out her address online.

Because I'm annoyed that people assumed I was wrong and that you must be in some other jurisdiction, I've dug in deeper and I'm going to give 4 specific examples for jurisdictions you might live in based on your use of "OWI".

Wisconsin - an adult child is a tenant, and must be formally evicted. Source

Michigan - an adult child is a tenant, and must be formally evicted. Source

Iowa - an adult child is a tenant, and must be formally evicted. Source

Indiana - an adult child is a tenant, and must be formally evicted. Source

These are the 4 states that commonly use OWI instead of DUI (technically Wisconsin uses something slightly different but I think they commonly say OWI - this source lists these 4 states, while this source has a full list of the specific legal terms for every state).

Your mom could evict you for breaking her house rules, but she can't just immediately throw you on the streets. She has to serve proper written notice and go through the courts to get you evicted.

In practice, it might be hard to enforce these rights, but they are your rights. If your mom kicks you out or changes the locks the police should be called to mediate your entry. At the very least you should be able to collect some belongings eg clothes, toiletries, legal documents (birth cert and SSN card). Furthermore, if you are unable to properly assert your rights as a tenant, you likely still have a strong civil claim - you would be able to sue your mom for an unlawful eviction and claim back what you spend on last minute accommodation.

However, it's generally better not to get kicked out in the first place - in particular you need up front money to pay for last minute accommodation and the cost of filing a lawsuit. Such a lawsuit may be small claims, where the filing fees are relatively low and you don't need a lawyer, but the specifics of this vary by state much more than adult child tenancies (for example, Iowa is up to $5,000 for small claims, but Wisconsin can be up to $10,000 for money and Wisconsin has no limits on rent claims).

Disclaimer: IANAL - I Am Not A Lawyer, if you want proper information you should try to get a free consultation with a lawyer local to you that deals with tenancies.

Setting aside all the legal stuff, you should consider what your behaviour looks like to your mom. If you want to demonstrate that you're a responsible adult that should be trusted, you probably shouldn't be trying to "take your chances" and circumvent your mom's rules. She doesn't want random people knowing her address, so don't give out her address to random people you meet online. You would be better off meeting them in a public place with other people around, but at the very least you could meet on a nearby street rather than letting them come all the way to your mom's.

I would have downvoted this if I didn't worry about OP's safety

Is there some sort of overriding reason that your mom has chosen to obscure her address? If not, then no, there is no reason to accede to these ridiculous demands.

There are no roles, only consequences. The real question here is what are the consequences, and we can't know that.

Elsewhere you say you're 25. As long as you're in a free country and a judge has not pronounced you incapable of taking care of yourself, then yeah. You can leave the house without asking permission.

Yes, of course that's allowed. Be aware that if you're name of not on the lease or deed that your mother can kick you out though. Depending on where you live you may have less rights if you aren't paying rent. In the US it doesn't matter if you're paying rent and they'd have to go through a formal eviction process. While of hope your mother wouldn't kick you out for going on a date, the situation already seems extreme. But yes, you're legally allowed to do this.

Are you in the US?

I think you should ask your sister about this. It's her job to take care of you. Should your mom find out not only will she be mad at you, she'll be mad at your sister. Your mom might even find someone else to take care of you