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I'm 25 now. My friends are either 18-19 or 45-60 with nothing in between. It's been like this my whole life.

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[-] AsakuraMao@moist.catsweat.com 18 points 5 months ago

At least for me, all my friends got married and vanished to another dimension when we were in our mid 20s

[-] Visstix@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I have nobody in real life that I would hang out with. But I do have plenty of people online to play games with. I feel like everything is online now. And the age thing, it varies between 20-40 I guess. Having friends your age is mostly if you know them from school I guess.

[-] NineMileTower@lemmy.world -3 points 5 months ago

What's your home address? I'll come over. Do you have anything valuable?

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 11 points 5 months ago

Shit, I just straight up don't have any friends.

[-] alyth@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

How do you not have friends? I see you on here all the time. I thought you'd be like super popular. Can we be friends 🥺

[-] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 11 points 5 months ago

I've always tended to have friends across ages, though my twenties were a bit less broad, and skewed older other than a small handful of friends from high school.

By my late twenties, it had broadened back out fairly well. But I was into stuff that tends to be all ages, and the high school friends were more spread out as they graduated, got jobs and such, so it was a few my age that I was very close with, and the rest were newer friends.

Now, it's more in clusters. I'm fifty now.

There's the group that's around my age; my best friend, some guys from my disability support group, a few exes and their spouses. All within a few years of 50.

There's a much older group that I made friends with when I was working still; mostly family of my patients. There's also two guys that were my teachers in martial arts, that I'm close to. I'd say the youngest of those is 72, the oldest being 88. The one lady may have had a birthday and be 73 now, we don't really keep track of birthdays.

There's a younger group, in their late twenties to early thirties that I met through family around that age, plus a guy that works at the closest convenience store that was just really cool.

Then there's the "kids". Some of them were students right after covid let up, but before I had a knee injury that made it difficult to give lessons, and they ended up moving on to other teachers (martial arts stuff), but still keep in touch. The rest are only kinda friends, they're more a friend group I fell into via gaming with my kid, and I'm the token old fart that doesn't mind them being kids while we game.

Youngest of those says he's 15, but I suspect he's a little younger. Oldest just graduated last year, started college this year, I wanna say she's still 18, but again, it isn't a close kind of friendship. Don't even know what most of their faces look like lol. Just voices over the internet. Good kids though, and might turn into real friends as they mature and move into life. Harder to be friends with folks that aren't adults, you have to keep distance and watch where conversations go, so there's not much depth there.

[-] Noodle07@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago
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[-] alyth@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

OH Thank you for the explanation!! That's a hecking cute photo lol!

[-] Albbi@lemmy.ca 4 points 5 months ago

You're welcome! The birds are cute but Mike Tyson = scary, so it's a confusing photo for me.

[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 9 points 5 months ago

If you were my friend, you'd be the first such friend.

[-] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

I have friends my age and I have friends that are up to 15 years older than me. I am 37. Mostly teammates from my hockey team. That's how friends work, typically. You share common interests and then exchange phone numbers. Soon you are kissing in the shower after a game. That's what friends are for.

[-] VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 6 points 5 months ago

I'm 38 and my friends are in their early 20s

[-] Carighan@lemmy.world 4 points 5 months ago

So/so. There's a fair few friends my own age, but also a fairly big group that is ~10 years younger than me. But then I'm old, so maybe 10 years isn't even that big a gap.

[-] minibyte@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Not many my age. I’m more interested in friends with shared or desirable virtues than interests though.

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