"Hey Gorb cheer up mate its not that bad"
Me literally sitting and vibing to music doing my work.
I cant even just sit quietly and enjoy my time alone with them getting uppity. NT's go in the bin
"Hey Gorb cheer up mate its not that bad"
Me literally sitting and vibing to music doing my work.
I cant even just sit quietly and enjoy my time alone with them getting uppity. NT's go in the bin
I don’t identify as neurodivergent, but I tend to misread/assume negative (which is the result of my own set of traumas and history that I need to police). And it’s a stark contrast, because you’re saying you tend to be understanding as a neurodiverse individual with misreads, holy shit most neurotypical people are the exact opposite. Zero consideration that they might have been putting out negative signals, it must be the person misreading‘a fault.
"Hey that didn't feel great when you said that"
"Oh I'm sorry I'll try better next time thank you for telling me."
Literally that easy folks.
It is pretty toxic how rare it is for people to ask clarifying questions rather than just assuming the worst and taking the opportunity to dunk. Just no good at all and it can be tiring, not least because I'd like to believe the other person isn't that malicious or incompetent irl.
In my experience practicing deescalatory / "organizer mode" conversation irl can really help with this. I don't know why it does but it's like working out a muscle and it gets stronger over time and eventually it forces me to be more patient even with very wrong and belligerent people. In turn this actually helps me out because I get less frustrated overall and can put my limited emotional resources into other things. I have no idea if this would be helpful for you, just sharing something I've recognized in myself.
Shout, shout, let it all out
Ableism's a thing I can do without
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed