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The woman in her 40's who asked for my consent to give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek was such an amazing person to me 🥺👉👈
She saw a lot of good in me, even though she was aware that I struggled to see such good in myself.
Consent and clear communication 😩
Oh I totally relate. I love hugs, but am not sure when to do them
Oh me me!
My social anxiety makes me terrified that I am a nuisance to other people, so I keep to myself so I don't annoy anyone and ruin their day.
🫠
Felt
I’m starting to think that social anxiety for me is a feature and not a bug (when so many try to pretend it’s the latter) just from how I grew up and learned to view the world
You have to make it known you're a hugger. When meeting people out parting ways, offer a hug. Sometimes you have to take the initiative.
Yeah I actually enjoy hugs but I'm just awkward about it, like idk when it's appropriate, and I'm too nervous to initiate it, etc etc.
My issue is that I don’t like being touched except for a few exceptions. So when there is a round of hugs happening and I hold back, I get the weird feeling that I just denied someone.
I’m sorry if my ND ever conflicts with your ND in a situation like this. I don’t hate you, I just hate the normative nature of touching each other in situations where words are enough.
this post was submitted on 21 Sep 2024
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