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submitted 9 hours ago by spujb@lemmy.cafe to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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this site is actually so mean literally all the time so im posting this here to let you know you’re not ‘too sensitive’ or something for not wanting to deal with attacks on your gender/body/intelligence for daring to exist and have fun online. the freaks that act like this are NOT the norm (they are just the loud and obnoxious minority) and it’s OK to take your time in recognizing this. <3

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[-] pinkystew@reddthat.com 8 points 4 hours ago

NO I DON'T FUCK YOU DIE IN A FIRE

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 4 hours ago

aw man :(

[-] pinkystew@reddthat.com 5 points 4 hours ago

..now I feel bad ...sorry ....i regret it

[-] jaggedrobotpubes@lemmy.world 7 points 5 hours ago

Probably the prevalence of american political posts + the fact that america is fighting a nazi cancer at the moment. A certain directness about a truly dogshit situation is fitting, and insisting on a rock-hard-pleasant tone with atrocities can border on lying.

It doesn't tend to happen on non-political memes, goofy stuff, or on (kinda surprisingly) Linux communities (mostly)

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 4 points 4 hours ago

definitely happens on non political memes and linux communities in my experience :(

[-] someguy3@lemmy.world 57 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Lemmy has a serious "I'm 14 and very badass" problem. Take the tone way down y'all. You wouldn't act like this in the real world.

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 8 hours ago

I live in a highly repressive area where Trans people are seen as nonhuman beasts, I cant even be myself irl.

[-] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 6 hours ago

Can you pinpoint a post which demonstrates this? I'm mostly on blahaj Lemmy communities, but I'd like to see your perspective.

[-] Kalkaline@leminal.space 15 points 8 hours ago

You don't know me.

[-] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 10 points 8 hours ago

The internet has that problem, but Lemmy is the best at combating that stuff I've seen so far.

[-] Aatube@kbin.melroy.org 6 points 8 hours ago

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 4 points 7 hours ago

Say that to my face

[-] workerONE@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Are you aware that there are people in this world that have a severe medical condition which causes them to be that way? My mother for instance is one of those people. She is a truck driver that has bad knees and a bad back from driving the truck but you probably do not care about that case either. Oh well I am not one of those people I am 6’4″ 245lbs and I exercise every day. I would love to see you say something like to my mother in front of me. Probably never happen though you are probably just an internet tough guy. I doubt very seriously you would say that to someones face. Just my thought.What do you think. Oh I am sorry you probably do not have a brain. I on the other hand will be happy to buy you a plane ticket to come here and see if you have the nerve to say that to someone I know.

[-] can@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 hours ago

Please tell me this is pasta. I was confident my sarcasm would have been clear.

[-] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

I have a blocklist of 35 people and this site has gotten way more positive and nice. It’s sad that it’s come to blocking so many people though.

All it takes is one arsehole in a nice thread to start insulting people and the whole thread often crumbles into a negative shitshow.

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 2 points 4 hours ago

my blocklist grew to like over 80 then i was like, damn shawty do you actually like being here?, then i left 😅

[-] Samvega@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 9 hours ago

I had half a thought to reply in some sarcastic and mocking 'I'm angry' tone, but no, you're correct. This tweet is correct. I enjoyed this chat and hope you have a great day. Why would I even pretend to be angry about your post? <3

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 16 points 9 hours ago

thanks stranger bestie, see you in the parking lot after bagging <3

[-] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 14 points 8 hours ago

Yeah, the site is mean. The doomerism is also really strong here. I should probably just try to cut out social media entirely. It's not good for me.

[-] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 hours ago

I know a lot of Lemmy turns their nose up at it because it’s not FOSS, but Bluesky has been legitimately chill IME. The subscribable block/mute lists and the way blocks break quote posts are a game changer. People who are chronic assholes end up shouting into the void and people who aren’t chronic assholes get the picture real quick

[-] ruckblack@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 hours ago

I'm annoyed with how mastodon works and I don't think it's ever going to change, so I might give bluesky a try.

[-] spujb@lemmy.cafe 1 points 4 hours ago

lemmy was like the poison that got me on the road to recovery lol. after years of reddit i was literally one of the first ppl here in the post-api wave, i couldn’t give up scrolling but was so mad about the ethics. switched instances a couple times but in the end you just realize that social media as a concept, even if it’s technically hosted non-profit, is still structured after a model that was created to serve capital. lemmy still enables toxicity in the same way reddit did, and i was just like damn why would i invest time in a platform that doesn’t even make me happy haha

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 8 hours ago

I act with complete silliness and tomfoolery. Some people hate that and get angry at me, ofc im too busy hugging my Blahaj to care :3

[-] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 hours ago

🤗🦈🥰 <3

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 6 hours ago

[-] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

If you filter out the "buzzwords of the week" you generally get calmer threads

Its not perfect but I've been lucky enough to have some very pleasant interactions here

[-] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 10 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

Solid perspective.

Do you happen to know where they keep the hot sauce? I can’t find an employee anywhere.

[-] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 6 points 7 hours ago

Isle 6, between the tchotchkes and the ramen.

But the best stuff is next door at the Ace Hardware. The ones by the Duracell batteries are best

[-] kautau@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

Ah my favorite four products all on the same shelf. Alkaline, alka-seltzer, alka-sauce, and alkahol

[-] SirSamuel@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

Hehehe, I like your funny words, magic man

[-] zoostation@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

I'm not going to start being an asshole out of nowhere but I will go after an asshole and tear them apart. I will never be mean or rude to someone who seems nice. And of course I won't make fun of someone's looks or weight or gender or race. But I do make a lot of jokes on other topics and people probably perceive me as rude sometimes when I don't intend it. I don't think it's wrong to be a looser version of yourself here than in real life. Within reason.