When it affects work or personal relationships.
Boss makes a billion
While I'm just a wage slave
That's why WFH
Is done in a goon cave
Or bathing and self care
IMO personal relationships kind of depend. Some people have unrealistic beliefs and expectations such that any consumption of pornography would be perceived as harmful. That's pretty often the case with people that are religious fundamentalists.
I mean, I don't usually talk about my porn viewing with friends. There's only a handful of people I would talk about it with. As far as fundamentalists goes, while I do have friends who identify as Christian, I would have a hard time being around someone under the fundamentalist label. For reasons that don't specifically have anything to do with porn.
The general measures of things like this are: is it causing a negative effect on you or others?
In a similar vein to pooping some people do every day, some twice or more, some a couple times per week. There's a range of normal. If it's not bothering you or anyone else it's probably fine. (Though see your Dr if you only poop once a week, something's weird there).
I’m gonna go with the blanket statement of:
If it’s getting in the way of your executive functions then it’s too much. If it takes any precedent over other things that you deem are your responsibility, then you need to take a step back.
If you're thinking about it when you don't have it, then it's an addiction and it's too much. If you reach the point of trying to watch it in places you shouldn't be, it's probably crossed that threshold.
I'm of the opinion that if you're casually scrolling lemmy and see a titty, pause a moment, say, "Nice titty" and continue scrolling then its whatever. If you're jacking once a day but are otherwise fine, then, again, whatev. When you start going further then that like cranking a few off at work each day, you gotta start evaluating life choices.
If it's interfering with other parts of your life like working, bathing, eating or paying bills most definitely a problem. A few times a day, week, month I don't see a problem, however I like watching porn so there's that.
When you stop seeing people and start seeing porn categories
(As a Transfem this is especially a problem. No, I am NOT a porn category or a sexual object I am a person.)
Daily is too much. It desensitizes you to normal sex. If your getting your jollies off to to your deepest fantasies every day it does something to the brain. Porn once a week, I see no problem with it messing with one's psyche. But I'm not a porn brain doctor so what do I know??? Im just a middle aged dude that may or may not have watched way too much porn in my younger days. The biggest warming i can give is one should never ever, never ever, do meth cand watch porn for 24 straight hours. Just take some rando from the internet word for it. You essentially do lines of meth then watch porn all night, edging yourself the whole time, then finally after 20 hours of wanking and looking for that perfect video you have an almost convulsive orgasm, you think you're having a heart attack, your load shoots into the next bedroom straight the walls and as you cum you lie there thinking your dying and that your family will find you surrounded by various drug paraphernalia and the dirtiest porn imaginable playing while the paramedics load up your still cumming corpse. So yeah like don't do that.
Anyway, what was the question again?
Any porn AT ALL is too much. PORN is a GATEWAY DRUG to other forms of DEPRAVITY and SIN. To know TRUE ECSTASY, let the light of the LORD into your HEART. Follow JESUS, my child.
(This parody isn’t perfect. There aren’t enough spelling or punctuation errors. Still, I hope you enjoyed it anyway.)
I cant hear you, I'm looking at porn!
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