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I like Instagram!? (hexbear.net)

I got an Instagram account when i got out of rehab because I wanted a way for people to get ahold of me when they haven't seen me for a while. I like reconnecting with people but I can't do it (sober; I used try to do it while I was drinking and usually acted inappropriately or just ghosted them really quick lol)

So when I was exploring the app for the first time I watched a random video on the topic of ADHD and the algorithm decided to show me pretty much only videos on the topic of ADHD. I'm really new at realizing I have ADHD and contextualizing my struggles in life through that lens, and I gotta say, I REALLY like having an app that just feeds me videos for and by people who have ADHD. I guess it even satisfies some urge to scroll but in a way that I'm learning and seeing people like me, so it doesn't feel like a waste of time.

Is this a good idea? Are there better apps or resources for this kind of thing? Should I try not to feel shame about using a meta product and embarrassed about engaging with such a "basic" app? Does anyone else have any ways they do something similar?

Love ya

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[-] mrfugu@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago

I find myself needing a connection to what feels like “the real zeitgeist” that I can only get through an app like instagram or TikTok. Reddit is cool sometimes (hexbear is cooler) but it doesn’t feel like a representation of real people I see in the world.

In this post-privacy world you can do your best to protect yourself but everything is taking your data. Not to say you shouldn’t try but I don’t think you should feel shame for enjoying the social connection.

Just watch yourself as you use the app it can go from cheerful connection to depressing alienation real quick (at least for me). I’m currently not using insta but I’m sure I’ll be back eventually once people start bugging me to see their memes.

this post was submitted on 27 Jan 2025
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