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[-] Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago

Homophobia

I was raised in a right wing, rural area, and i didn't meet a gay person til higschool. When he said he was gay, i assumed he was joking.

Im trans now lol

[-] RamblingPanda@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 3 weeks ago

Dude tells you he's gay, immediately turns you trans. The danger is real, people! 😭

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[-] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

Also: aphantasia

You have no idea how pissed I was to find out all of you had a fucking superpower, would have been nice to learn this before I wasted 3 years at graphic design

[-] notanapple@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Having a constant noise in your head/ears. It was so normal to me I didnt question it for many years. I randomly asked my friends about it one day and found out most people actually dont have an old crt tv like noise in their ears (and that its the disorder tinnitus).

In my case its not very severe thankfully, I dont notice it unless Im in a silent room or Im actively thinking about it.

[-] jpreston2005@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I don't know if this counts, but when I was little I'd go to friends houses, then later in high school to my first serious girlfriends house, and I remember their families were like... loving? I loved spending time at my girlfriends house especially, hanging out with her Mom and her Dad even if my gf wasn't there. They were so nice, and you could tell had genuine affection for their children (and to some degree, me). I miss you Mr. and Mrs. Miller!

[-] shalafi@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

That's me. I had no idea other families were affectionate and said crazy stuff like, "I love you." My god, they even hug.

To this day I struggle with affection, even though I love it. If you touch me unexpectedly I'll involuntarily flinch. I don't mind, at all, but I still jerk and can't help it.

[-] Ziglin@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

I think my family was the same but I turned out cuddly, maybe the difference was the cats?

[-] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 weeks ago

That not everyone secretly wanted to be a woman.

[-] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago

Oof yup that was a doozy

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[-] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Reading.

Or rather, how so many people seem fear and avoid it, or can't do it. Something like 21% of adults in the US are illiterate, and the majority -- 54% -- read at or below a 6th grade level.

I've been a sight reader probably since I was about six years old. I absolutely cannot look at any words legibly written in my native language and not understand them. You couldn't force me to look at words written in English and not digest them if you held a gun to my head. I fear no wall of text, no matter how tall it is.

It takes some effort to wrap your head around the notion that not only can most people not do this, but statistically speaking most or at least a plurality of people have to struggle or exert conscious effort to read and many of them are loathe to do so. And roughly one in five people simply can't. This did not sink in for me when I was younger.

I can't imagine having to live my life that way. You nerds have seen how much bullshit I write in a day; I'd go absolutely bats.

[-] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

As a kid I kept asking librarians why libraries were so empty of people if they had so many books and it took me years to understand the sadness in her shrug.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Knee pain. Everyone told me it was normal growing pains, until one little league coach notice I run weird. Queue years of doctors and specialists and tests and scans and surgeries, and now I'm a 40 something guy with advanced arthritis that could have been much much worse if left untreated.

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[-] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Oh plenty of things:

having respect for others

being honest

helping the needy

fair pay for fair work

honestly considering others' perspectives

loyalty

Basically every virtue I was ever told was worthy to embody has been used against me as a weapon or a tool

And of the hundreds of people I know IRL less than 10% give any of these internal value or even attempted to put into practice

And here I've been a sucker all my life doing the proper social contract thing because I don't like the way the world is shaping up and getting CONSTANTLY bent over for it

[-] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

My first long term relationship was with a woman who could orgasm from penetration in less than a minute.

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[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 1 points 3 weeks ago

Growing up using a poop knife.

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[-] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

Excruciating period pain that would leave me fainting and vomiting every. Single. Time.

"Every girl goes through this" said the doctor, convincing my parents that I was just "dramatic".

Turns out I had huge polyps growing out of control! Left scarring in my uterus and high-risk when pregnant.

Dealt with that hell every fucking month since I was 11 until I got onto birth control in my 20s.

[-] dmention7@lemm.ee 2 points 3 weeks ago

My wife went through something similar. Took until she was in her 30s and we were pursuing IVF for someone to take her seriously and actually do the investigation to realize she had crazy scarring from endometriosis causing all kinds of issues.

It's insane to me how much the modern medical community seems to normalize or straight up ignore this shit, like you said.

I realize we could have pushed harder, but when multiple doctors tell you "yeah, some women just experience periods differently, here's 500mg Naproxen to help you through" you tend to believe it.

[-] dogs0n@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

Sucks when doctors just assume things, it can cost lives.

[-] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 1 points 3 weeks ago

It's barbaric. They assume that if you're girl/woman, most problems are basically "female hysteria"!

Not even "it could be [blank], you might want to keep an eye on that and report back if it doesn't go away." Nope! Diagnosis: dramatic.

And women die from this shit. Or become disabled / handicapped. Or it affects their long-term future if they want children. It's awful.

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[-] waz@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

This was a really recent realization for me. I am one of the people who can voluntarily activate the tensor tympani muscles in my ears to create a low level rumbling sound. I recently tried explaining this to someone else and they still think I am making it up.

[-] conditional_soup@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago

Wait, not everyone can do that?! What the fuck?!

[-] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Fellow rumbler rejoice!

As I kid I thought it activated some kind of telekinetic or telepathic power so i'd keep doing it and gesturing at ping pong balls or candle flames

So sad to learn that it has nothing to do with psychic powers

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