You can change your (psychological) reaction to everything. All psychological suffering is chosen by yourself and can be stopped if you choose not to suffer.
Of course this is simple, not easy. Almost no one can do it.
Most people I meet don't believe this and hate that I'm saying this.
Purely as a thought experiment, this is mostly just vacuous logic. Sure, you can kill yourself, or kill everything you love or hate, or make sacrifices that are probably infinitely greater than the suffering itself (you could choose to stop caring about human suffering, most would much rather suffer than do that).
In practice however this is even worse than vacuous, it's just wrong and insane. You can't choose to not be schizophrenic, physical and psychological pain aren't two neatly distinct categories, saying it's "a choice" is just drawing a completely arbitrary border on where choice starts, and no shit people get angry at you because unless you heavily qualify this kind of statement further, anyone would think you're doing the purest form of bootstrap victim blaming argument possible. Anyone would think of that one time they suffered the most in their lives and you're saying "you chose that, that's on you".
If I try to be as charitable as I possibly can, I would assume this is an attempt at criticizing self-pity, highlighting that we are often our biggest obstacles to healing and that will plays a greater part in our agency than we recognize. I'd agree with all of that, but that's being really charitable, I don't think your statement makes that case at all.
That ability to make a choice is itself a result of being in the right time+place and receiving the correct guidance+education.
Like someone who read your comment might look into this and slowly learn to be more resilient, but if that same person doesn't read it, never receives any guidance and has to suffer psychological abuse from those around them, would you really blame them for being the way they are?
Obviously, yep. We are all victims of our circumstances and if you never get in contact with this concept or are not in a mental situation to want to believe it to be true, you're pretty much out of luck.
You should elaborate a bit, I can get two possible interpretations of this - one which I agree should be a more popular opinion, and one which I believe is nonsense and should be made fun of.
Why would I post it here? I'd get mass downvoted, only mild unpopular opinions are popular.
What are the "unpopular opinion" rules on Lemmy?
My original understanding from outside Lemmy is you should upvote the truly interesting unpopular opinions for visibility.
For example:
Sonic The Hedgehog (Sonic '06) is an absolute gem of a game in its original buggy mess form it released in. The bugs and frustration they cause only add onto the charm.
Also, the Adventures of Sonic the Hedgehog (not SatAM) cartoon is just as good, if not slightly better, than SatAM due to the absolutely goofy atmosphere. Some of the jokes in Adventures were great. Absolutely loved the joke on Sloww Going where they had Tails writing down whatever Sonic said they needed to rebuild a house for a family of sloths and when Sonic goes to look back at what he wrote, it's nonsense and Tails has to remind Sonic that he's only 4½ years old and doesn't know how to write yet.
Saw a video pop up in the incognito mode thing for yt about Tails being a savage and I found a comment that absolutely resonates with why I absolutely LOVE that version of Tails as well and why he's the best version of tails ever. They were saying how his personality really makes him feel like a little kid without a filter. Absolutely the best Tails ever, so I 100% agree with that comment.
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