As someone who started and is extremely active in a small community, I find Lemmy actively hostile to the point where I'm considering closing up after less than a month.
The number of indignant replies and comment-free downvotes we get inundated with continually is... disheartening.
People want content, but actively detract from any content that doesn't cater to them. It's hard to take.
That's called being a centrist or an independent. Lemmy hates those.