Genuinely I appreciate the advice, as an autistic person (and federal agent of course) it’s not often enough I get to actually have clear feedback on how I could have done an interaction better

I have a bunch of those too! I still have a big ass box of cards too which I haven’t touched in years.

Sure I’m currently high enough I’ll try to explain my thoughts through all of that, although most of it is “I’m kinda dumb”

Why I speak like that, I’m not really sure and it’s not something I love about myself but usually how the posts come out here is how the thoughts are going inside, I mask more in other places, here I tend to write how I think.

Why I thought it wouldn’t cause a struggle session, I think I vastly overestimated the degree to which volcel police was a bit, I thought it was just something we were doing because weirdo right wingers were “incels” and someone someday decided that “volcel” was funny.

I don’t generally think of Hexbear as more puritanical than the rest of the Anglo world I think it’s on the more sexually liberated end of things, which is why when in the past I’ve seen things that go against that I go “Oh wait this exists here too.”

So aside from what I thought was a small minority of users I kinda thought I was gonna be preaching to the choir?

I thought discussion of these ideas as right wingers propaganda by a PhD student researching that topic was something people here might appreciate, and then as I was writing the post I got in a weird mode and let the annoying argumentative side out I guess?

I still stand by most of what I’ve said although I could’ve been less of an asshole about some of it. As far as poisoning the well, the point of the video was that these beliefs come from right wing propaganda, so that’s a problem inherent to talking about this, that’s not just me being an asshole in the comments.

In retrospect should I have known this would’ve caused an argument though? 100%

First off, I’ve been here since the sub was banned and the lifeboat Discord, I’ve changed accounts a few times for opsec.

To be quite honest I didn’t expect this to become such a struggle session. This wasn’t even supposed to be particularly a callout post of this site, it was more a comment on US culture broadly and the comment about the volcel police was supposed to be a site relevant joke.

I shouldn’t have said the thing about “weird prudes,” that was rude, my point was just that this idea that these ideas have even crop up in leftist, pro-sw, pro-lgbt spaces like Hexbear.

I certainly see how it comes off as backhanded attack on the site’s culture, and I’m sorry, that was not my intention.

I don’t trust capitalist biomedical-industry aligned “studies” that directly cut against the lived experience of me and everyone I know. I know that vaccine gave my son autism.

I love anecdotal evidence!

Actually that would be more valid than your claim, because some biomedical research is funded and operated by the biomedical industry, whereas research on the effects of pornography aren’t funded by the porn industry like, at all.

These are studies done by universities, which generally have a relatively conservative environment, and definitions agreed on by major health organizations including the WHO. The PhD student researching media ethics and writing her dissertation on the effects of pornography is not a secret stooge of the porn industry, and she’s far more knowledgeable on this topic than you are.

I won’t disagree that there are people who have an unhealthy relationship with porn that negatively impacts their lives.

But that is not what makes an addiction, and a lot of that unhealthy relationship is caused by the stigmatization of porn in the first place.

:this:

The largest institution of porn in our fascist society has fascist categories

That doesn’t really say anything about porn inherently, just that we live in a fascist society.

Here’s an article from Psychology Today not exactly a deep dive but gives a good summary

This and honestly I think the existence of dating apps is sexually repressive in and of itself.

Many people today are uncomfortable with the concept of flirting with a stranger at a bar. And I don’t just mean “Man you just can’t sexually harass a woman like you used to!”

Both men and women have now become accustomed to the idea that it’s only appropriate to flirt in the environment of dating app where flirting is inherently agreed on up front. It is only appropriate to do romance under the thumb of the corporations. Anything else would be a social faux pas, you wouldn’t want to potentially make someone uncomfortable would you? Best to stay in the meeting space designated to you b Capital.

This is overwhelmingly not what the experts believe

Unfortunately, the previous owner did not disclose that thousands of Lifetime Deals (LTDs) had been sold through platforms like StackSocial.

We discovered this only months later—when a large portion of our resources were strained by these LTD accounts and high support volume from users, who through part of the database, provided no sustaining income to help us improve and maintain the service

Sounds like something for your lawyers to discuss with the previous owners, rather than start breaking contracts you were already in.

According to VPNSecure’s owners, their acquisition netted them “the tech, the brand, and the infrastructure/technology—but none of the company, contracts, payments, or obligations from the previous owners.”

Well isn’t that convenient for you! I love to buy all the benefits of something without any of its associated downsides!

VPNSecure is offering affected users discounted new subscriptions for either $1.87 for a month (instead of $9.95), $19 for a year (instead of $79.92), or $55 for three years (instead of $107.64). The deals are available until May 31, per the email.

At yes, $55 for 3 years is totally the same as being already paid off for the rest of my life. Spending $1000 over the remainder of my life is no different to spending $0, and I’m sure your customers will see it that way.

Everyone who approved this should have their own personal wealth taken to be given as refunds to the customers.

Also, if a company cancels a lifetime agreement they should be required to pay you back significantly more than you paid them in the first place. Like if it was $500 for the lifetime deal it should cost like $1000 to cancel and refund it. A straight refund does not make things even when I signed on for a very good deal, a straight refund means I’m getting screwed over.

Also also, maybe I’m wrong about the cost of running a VPN service, but I feel like $55 for 3 years has to be above the break-even point for most users, and if you’ve really discovered a bunch of lifetime subscriptions causing you to hemorrhage money, you should only be charging them the amount that will stem that bleeding. Like $.50 a month or whatever the actual cost per user is.