I had something similar happen to me. I was helping a friend with homework, and she abruptly and excitedly said her nipple was tender, and showed me her new nipple piercing. I just froze and said it was nice. She lingered for a while, then put it away.
The poor girl must have been exasperated with me. I just never caught on.
I was on a dating site many years ago. Never got messaged, rarely got responses.
Met someone in real life, set my profile to “in a relationship”. Got like 5 messages within a week.
Definitely a bit of vetting going on