It actually happened because Paul verhoeven wrote a script that only got attached to the novel when someone else noticed the similarities. Paul never actually read it lol
In the novel they very much are small teams of individual warfighters in high-tech mech suits that can leap 100 yards at a time and fire tactical nukes. They also actually have strategy and stuff. The human wave warfare in the movies doesn't fit in with the message of the novel at all. I'd actually recommend reading the novel, its pretty interesting even tho its politics are bad.
Something I learned from listening to podcasts about comedy and stand up is to never tell the audience they are getting a bad show. If you think you are bombing and start trying to lampshade it you admit to the audience you don't have control over the situation and they start to have a bad time.
P.s. I was thinking of narcissists who will never be satisfied or seem to enjoy ruining events, not necessarily just being disappointed with something. Im sorry you feel that way sometimes