Really depends on what you do and value. I use lots of kde software, so kde distros are my go to. then one big diffrence between distros is how they get updated. do you want the latest updates asap on the costs of stability, or do you want an effing never crashing distro but lag behind in updates a few months/years, or a middleground.

These are the two points i considered when i choose.

i failed out of uni so take my advice with a huge grain of salt. but its ok to fail or rescedule. as long as you persist ofc. I failed some class and the shame made me fail more. reality is pretty much everyone has parts of their studys that are boring or incredible hard. and pretty mich everyone fails some stuff. Just make a plan, figure out what made you fail last time (if it happends) and try to prevent that next time.

tl;dr: dont be like me. be open and honest to your friends, professors and family. and you will make it :)

what a non answer. imagin someone asks for directions, and all they get as an answer is "traveling isnt just beeing good at walking. you need to do the work and find the way"

I mean i totally agree with your observation, but op asked for tips. they are probably a younger person asking more experienced people how to start into life.

Wrked in a bakery with a café part to sit at. the store was in the same building as a convinence store. Every now and then a middle aged woman with smeared make up (think simpsons make up shotgun) went to the convience store the came to us, to first use the toilett and the sit down and "drink" a coffee. at least that is her story. as a worker we all knew that she never drank the coffee, but instead drank those mini alkohol bottles in the toilett ( as if we didnt see the bottles in the trash). she usually gets punch drunk till closing time. but we let her since she obviously felt ashamed about drinking, and seemed to have a hard life as is. but as she got comfortable with the workers, because we were nice to her, she started to belive/act as if she worked there too when drunk. repositioning all the tables and chairs. takeing the toilett keys home and never return them, try to make us hang out inside the store after closing. and if you ever tried to reason with a drunk person you know there is no way. after we needed to call the police the second time just to able to end out shift, and close down, she got banned.

in a way i feel sorry for her, since she was never seen in the store again. these people make me want to be able to help. but i am not able and i get paid minimum wage to keep up with it :/

are you sure that is grounded in reality rather than emotions? I dont call you a liar since i have zero knowledge how it works in usa. i just had the same feeling that speed cameras are a cash grab. but then i saw the process how a speed camera is decided upon. and in my cuntry they literally only stand ar places with a higher crash density. these areas also have slower speed limits which can feel annoying. but it is stastlcally proven that injuris and crashed were significantly reduced. see this process and understanding it chenged my views on that entirely.

there are offices that offer these services offline. if you wanna do it on your own youll need to request a lot of acces to city archives. At least in some countrys, citys keep many infos. including if someone moves there ect.

So if you know where your grandparents used to be born, go there, and maybe you find infos about your grand grandparents. and then its just a game to hunt for infos. See if you can find your anchestors names in unis, or companys or something.

I heard its quite tedious and takes years

[-] SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

This post was already posted here exactly two weeks ago already by the very same account. Just annoys me to see this bot like activity already on lemmy.

as a hige indi/small developer fan i see great times ahad. AAA will fail, clmpanys will close and developers will find new homes in smaller teams. by 2030 i predict a golden age for AA and and perhabs also a new golden age for indi.

ok this feels like a real hot take. but i am somewhat glad about this. in my country telegram has the reputation to be the nazi (and sometimes the pedo-) app. so i am not unhappy those people online activity can be used against them in court. That beeing said i can respect people who feel otherwise.

ereyesterday is the day before yesterday. as a german i am used to refer to two days in the past and future without useing weekdays.

its sad isnt it? I objectively really like the music still. but cant enjoy it anymore because it reminds me that such trash people exist and have power :(

Naja, abgesehen davon, dass der Tipp sich nicht bestätigte (die fesgenommenen hatte keinen Haftbefehl gegen sich) und Schusswaffen eingesetzt wurden.

Ich stimme zu, dass der post faules whataboutism ist. Aber es stimmt schon, dass öffentlichwirksam rechtsextremisten weniger aufmerksamkeit und "gewalt" abbekommen als linksextremisten. Was etwas schade ist wenn doch immer versucht wird beide seiten als gleich dar zu stellen.

quelle: https://www.deutschlandfunk.de/festgenommene-personen-sind-nicht-die-raf-terroristen-staub-und-garweg-100.html

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Heyyy, I am so sorry for missing two full weeks, and barely beeing online. Tl;dr: had a bad depressive episode. Yet i still managed to read all new posts and comments in the meantime. i apprechiate all you people very much, even when socialising can be impossible. Love to you all!

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A place to chit chat, share whats going on in your life, and generally for people who feel like talking but dont know where.

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Hey sorry for the delay. i had no acces to a computer, and the app doesnt give me the ability to pin posts. Have a nice week!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone

i know this sounds paradox and maybe some will not understand this (yet), but i want to shine a light on some positive side effects of this primarily negative topic.

for me, i feel like social anxiety has made me more empathetic towards my fellow humans. i work as a service worker in sales, and many of my coworkers don't care about the customers and are mostly just annoyed at them. i try to show understanding since i never know what someone is going through and how hard this shopping trip is for them. i have the motto that i want to give people around me more space, and more time to do whatever. however much time they might need. because i know i sometimes need this, and i am very happy when i can see someone who apprechiates it when i don’t pressure them to buy something. i think we all can practice a little more empathy. i imagine without experiencing social anxiety myself i would have less acceptance of other peoples struggles whatever kind that might be.

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Hello you beautiful people. I want to start this little experiment where i will pin a megathread each week for talking about your week, share small victories, or discuss your goals for the next week. There are no topic rules to this, any kind of small talk is welcome. :) I figured since some of us might lack a space to share about their daily life, maybe we can use such a place here.

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I am mostly looking for healthy ways to cope with stressful situations. what do you do when the panic kicks?

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/newcommunities@lemmy.world

I wanted to create a community i was missing personally. Here people with (or without) social anxiety can discuss the topic, vent, find information or just talk in a safe space.

Link #1 Socialanxiety

Link #2 !socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone

(hope i did the links correctly ^^") Have a nice day!

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Hey people! I just created the hub socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone since i didn't find a Hub for that yet, and feel like i have relevant experiences and want to help the whole plattform grow. Since i never created a sub on reddit or the like before, i am wondering if there are things i can do to help the Hub grow and reach the people it was designed for?

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I think we all had these annoying situations where an uninformed people doesn't know what they are talking about. Do you have any particular one that grinds your gears?

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Introduction (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

Hello all you beautiful people, I am glad you are here.

Who is this Hub for? This Hub is for anyone who finds modern social life daunting. It's a place to vent, forge low-stakes connections, and most importantly, a secure space to simply be yourself without judgment. Whether you've been officially diagnosed, suspect you may be dealing with these issues, or are simply seeking resources and understanding, this space is here for you.

Who runs this Hub? This Hub is created, moderated by a socialphobe who has spent several years to find their own spot in this world, and wants to help others' find their way in life, so they can feel save and fulfilled.

Why this Hub was created I realise it is a bit ironic to create a space on a social platform for people who struggle with being social. But I still feel it's relevant to have online spaces where people with anxieties can feel safer and can find community, connection and understanding.

So please feel welcome! Since this is a new Hub and not fully formed yet, I am always open to feedback, criticisms and inspirations. Feel free to reach out to me via DM or Post.

I wish everyone a nice time :)

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