any1 fw a straight-w/-bi-vibes white boy w/ a gentle spirit and a slightly spooky and haunted aesthetic? who feels loss quite acutely & has a bit of venom & righteous anger mixed up w/ the delicate nature of their soul?

anybody...?

miss 's wisdom and empathy in these periods of loneliness and pain. the vlogs really helped me through the early 2020s in a way that feels almost embarrassing (but that's just the cop in my head talking). glad his recovery seems to be going well.

this is why i prefer dating queer women and fembies tbh. being Q4Q is totally valid. it's not just men who need their cishet brains dewormed.

wage labor is extremely fucking good at making you feel like you're wasting your one precious life, shit is so fucking cool it owns so much

i've said variations of this before but in honor of the site's bday: this site is truly a window into what a kinder and more humane internet might look like. genuinely kinda baffling it exists, in a good way. (should still be named chapo . chat though you fucking bastards, the original subreddit was a wild and wonderful place and the pod is fine-to-good, why erase our history )

you fucking perverts...on a Monday???? the site really made me raw dog a wage labor shift on a fucking monday....

how could chapo dot chat do this to me

its kinda sick that we have as many users as we did during the golden age of r/cth (when i first subscribed) and before the subreddit got oversaturated and therefore more lib (the moment the person after me subscribed)

im pretty much with you. if youve followed my posts at all, this past year i became single for basically the first time in my adult life. and while i went into the apps knowing its not really a meritocracy, i was still shocked at how awful and dehumanizing (and just plain bad at serving their intended function if you're straight masc) the apps are. i redownloaded them after a month off them, but really have just been seeing them as a game to play while i take a shit this time around and am expecting zero success. sucks though, because idk where else you can meet people nowadays - but at the same time the apps barely even seem to work, so it feels like somethings gotta give...

simply crack open another beer

cuuuuuuute, hope things keep going well for ya'll

fr, honestly part of the reason i started posting so much more the past half year is me and my partner split and i didn't have to think about how she'd take my chapo dot chat self (i think this shows we had other deeper issues but still)

in my mostly male and male-presenting friend group, it seems to be split 50/50 in terms of who's had an okay time on them and who finds them to be a barren hellscape, and it doesn't really seem to correspond 1:1 with conventional attractiveness either. I think my friends who got on them before they became even further enshittified tend to have a higher opinion of them. FWIW I became single this year after almost 9 years in a relationship and I'm firmly in the hellscape camp.

(Also don't let one bad experience scare you off IRL connection, I really do think it's something special when it works out)