you're reminding me i should catch up on blowback, i'm 2 seasons behind (the korea one was the last one i listened to)
thought about picking it up for Aki but fighting games are such a time sink....
when i was acclimating to the apps after a decade+ not using them at all, i got in my feelings about a lack of success a lot (and posted incessantly about it here). but most matches fizzle and it's not personal, and even if she felt like it was personal on her end somehow (i.e. got a vague ick from a reply of yours), this match doesn't know you at all. you're a few paragraphs and a curated selection of photos. it really doesn't reflect on you or your desirability at all at all at all.
it sucks, but the way i learned to function and find some success on the apps was to A) learn to never get attached to a match who i haven't met in person yet and B) stop overthinking my approach and be myself/go with the flow more.
EDIT: lol just saw your update. see, sometimes it works out! i also had to learn to not read into periods of silence, sometimes its a lack of interest but sometimes there are other explanations. my mini-relationship off hinge started from her taking days between responses.
In that moment i saw in my heart six months from now when she and I were in the kitchen making novelty snacks for a game night we invited our friends to. She has me taste a spoon. It is too salty. She looks away. I have to spend ten minutes sitting in a display recliner pretending to read the nutrition facts of a bag of hello kitty strawberry marshmallows. After which time I have contemplated all the mistakes I have made in life that prevent me from knowing that moment and I can continue my day
Based beyond words 
from now on whenever someone misuses effects vs affects or you're vs your i'm just gonna highlight the text and respond with 
w/o elaboration, this includes myself as seen in my recent post
fr. anyone who thinks...
Cold blood night of serpent's breath Exhaled like spells from the endlessness In the bottomless wells of emptiness Channeled to invoke what we represent
...is gibberish needs to fix their heart asap
just learned this thread exists! reposting from the general megathread: i need to quit solo drinking at home. i need to actually try to do it this time. maybe it would lead into mostly giving up drinking period, but for right now quitting social drinks is just too big of an ask so im starting here. any sober comrades want to chime in with tips? even though i'm not going full sober (yet if ever), i'm sure many of the same tactics apply.
ur so right if only anxiety's bitchass listened to reason but dont worry im keepin his sorry shitty face & personality in check 
tinder is kinda the niche-less dumping ground dating app where you can find a bit of everything these days. maybe feeld? it's not strictly a hookup app (and certainly not strictly hetero there's a lotta queer peeps) but more poly and kink oriented which seems to naturally attract more people who are down with "just" sex. i always hated it b/c i found it kinda sleezy but ive never been much of a hookup w/o a connection guy.
let your media taste rock! even though i just posted pretty intense crit of it idt that means other people cant have their own different personal relationship with the show, subjective nature of art and all that
SoylentSnake
joined 4 years ago
first dates are low stakes! don't worry so much about rizz and worry more about being open and curious about her, remember that you're feeling out whether you might be interested in her as much as the other way around. I agree with CommieJones about keeping texting to a minimum before an in-person meet, you can get so much more of a real read on someone out of a few hours face to face vs a whole epoch of texting.