I always felt like that study from the 90s is missing part of the picture. Like, it's less 'closeted gay people' that are the problem, and it's more the people who are closeted because it was beaten into them at a young age that being gay means they deserve the worst of the worst.
I think you're spot on with fear being the root cause, and we really have done a good job at making people afraid of their own sexuality.
Part of the problem, I think, is that in common vernacular, 'landlord' also applies to people that are renting out a room of their personal house. The pro-landlord propaganda likes to hold them up as the gold standard we're attacking.
We need to be clear that we're absolutely not talking about the couple that's renting out their kid's old room to get through tough times. They're also victims of the same system, being forced to sacrifice personal property at the altar of capitalism.
Yeah, if we were putting billionaires against the wall, GabeN would probably be near the end of the line.
This is the way
You're telling me the bees get the munchies when they smoke...
This is part of the defunding of education. 20 years ago my high school was wall-to-wall desks you had to squeeze to get to, and it's only gotten worse since then.
Yeah, I got accusations thrown at me after letting a trans lady crash at my place when she came out and her ex-wife kicked her out of the house. Everybody was an adult, but the ex-wife found a friend in the TERFs, and they think trans rights is pedo apologism.
I got molested by my babysitter when I was 5, and it was incredibly infuriating to hear people say it was the same as a fucking divorce.
A'ight, girl to girl advice here. I think you're so afraid that your partner is going to turn into a replica of your ex that you're willing to nuke the relationship first.
What you've said in your post doesn't really have much to do with your bf. Your ex would compare you to other girls, but has your current bf done that? Your dad would fight with you instead of talking, but does your bf do that?
I just feel like I give so much of myself and my happiness, even faking it all the time, to not feel it in return.
Stop faking it. Worst-case scenerio, people assume you're acting a certain way to manipulate them, and that's not really wrong. They can't read minds, so they don't know you're hiding insecurity, they just know you're hiding something.
You also can't give out fake and expect genuine in return. I'd be willing to bet that some of the friction you're feeling is from people trying to fake it back. If you want to trust a partner that trusts you, you can't have fake getting in the way.
Be the change you want to see
Three things, don't forget that American companies got a lot of European contracts to help rebuild after WWII. There's too many people out there that ignore that influx of money and try to say the economic boom of the 50s was because misogyny and racism worked.
It's one of those things you kinda had to be there for. Japan used to be practically synonymous with new tech, and now it's just been baked into the aesthetic of the genre.
Rufus!